Assalamu Alaikum.
Mere husband job ki wajah se abroad rehte hain aur bachchon ki poori zimmedari mere upar hai. Aaj kal mere dono bachche bahut jaldi angry ho jate hain, zid karte hain aur meri baat bhi kam maante hain. Mujhe fikr hai ke kahin un ki deeni tarbiyat aur akhlaaq mutasir na ho jayein. Main pyar ke sath un ki behtareen tarbiyat kaise karun?
Rehnumai Meri pyari behen... Sab se pehle yeh baat yaad rakhiye ke aap akeli nahin hain. Duniya bhar mein hazaron maaein isi surat-e-haal ka samna kar rahi hain. Jo maa apne bachchon ke deen aur akhlaaq ki fikr karti hai, woh Allah ke nazdeek ek bahut badi zimmedari ada kar rahi hoti hai.
Agar aap ke bachchon ke behaviour mein change aaya hai, to zaroori nahin ke woh badtameez ho gaye hon. Aksar bachche apni feelings ko alfaaz mein bayan nahin kar paate. Woh jo kami mehsoos karte hain, woh kabhi gusse, kabhi zid aur kabhi bad behaviour ki shakal mein nazar aati hai.
Ek Misal Jab kisi pauday ko ek jagah se doosri jagah lagaya jata hai, to kuch din us ke patte murjha jate hain. Is ka matlab yeh nahin hota ke pauda kharab ho gaya. Usay sirf thodi zyada dekhbhal ki zarurat hoti hai.
Bilkul isi tarah, jab bachcha apne father se door rehta hai, to usay pehle se zyada love, attention aur emotional support ki zarurat hoti hai.
Ab kya karein? 1. Gusse ke waqt behas na karein.
Jab bachcha angry ho, us waqt usay samjhana ya daantna aksar faydah nahin deta. Pehle usay calm hone dijiye, phir pyar se baat kijiye.
2. Roz thoda Quality Time dijiye.
Har roz kam az kam 15–20 minutes sirf bachchon ke liye rakhiye. Is waqt mobile aur doosre kaam side par rakh dijiye. Sirf un ki baat suniye.
3. Father ka rabta mazboot rakhiye.
Agar mumkin ho to roz ya hafte mein chand martaba video call karwaiye. Father sirf haal-chaal na poochhein, balki un ki Salah, Qur'an aur achhi aadaton ki bhi tareef karein.
4. Achhe kaam ki tareef kijiye.
Har waqt ghalti pakadne ke bajaye jab bhi bachcha koi achha kaam kare, foran us ki tareef kijiye. Appreciation bachche ke confidence ko barhati hai.
5. Dua aur sabr ko kabhi na chhodiye.
Tarbiyat ek din ka kaam nahin hai. Aaj ki mehnat ka natijah kabhi kabhi mahino baad nazar aata hai. Is liye jaldi mayoos na hon aur Allah se madad maangti rahen. Meri pyari behen, yaad rakhiye, bachchon ko sirf khana, kapra aur taleem nahin chahiye hoti, unhein yeh ehsas bhi chahiye hota hai ke "Meri maa mujhe samajhti hai aur mujh se mohabbat karti hai." Jab yeh ehsas mazboot ho jata hai, to tarbiyat ka safar bhi aasan hone lagta hai.
Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachcha jab gusse mein ho, us ki ghalti se pehle us ke jazbaat ko samajhne ki koshish kijiye."
Action Today Aaj sirf 15 minutes ke liye apna mobile side par rakh kar apne bachche ke sath baithiye. Us ki baat baghair toke poori tawajjuh se suniye.

Mera 12 saal ka beta Hafiz-e-Qur’an ka student hai. Alhamdulillah padhai mein achha hai aur Deen ki samajh bhi rakhta hai, lekin use bahut jaldi gussa aa jata hai. Samjhane par apni baat ko sahi sabit karne ke liye behas karta hai. Main us ke gusse, chirchirapan aur baat karne ke andaaz ko kaise behtar banaun?
Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle Allah Ta‘ala ka shukr ada kijiye ke aap ka beta Hafiz-e-Qur’an hai, padhai mein achha hai aur Deen ki samajh bhi rakhta hai. Is ka matlab hai ke us ki buniyad mazboot hai. Ab zarurat us ki personality ko sahi direction dene ki hai.
Aap ki baaton se lagta hai ke asal masla badtameezi se zyada anger control aur apni baat manwane ki aadat hai. Baarah saal ki umar mein bachcha teenage ki taraf badh raha hota hai. Is stage par woh chahta hai ke us ki baat suni jaye aur us ki opinion ko importance mile.
Ek Misal Ek taqatwar ghoda agar trained ho to sawar ko manzil tak pahuncha deta hai, lekin agar usay direction na mile to wahi taqat nuksan ka sabab ban sakti hai. Isi tarah intelligent aur strong personality wale bachche ko dabane ki nahin, balki adab, sabr aur self-control sikhane ki zarurat hoti hai.
Kya Karein? 1. Gusse ke waqt samjhana band kar dijiye.
Jab woh angry ho, us waqt behas ya lecture na dein. Sirf itna kahiye:
“Beta, abhi tum gusse mein ho. Hum is baat par baad mein calmly baat karenge.”
Jab woh normal ho jaye, tab short aur clear baat kijiye.
2. Har behas ka jawab dena zaroori nahin.
Kabhi kahiye:
“Main ne tumhari baat sun li hai. Hum is par baad mein sochenge.”
Is se bachche ko lagega ke us ki baat suni gayi, lekin har decision us ki marzi se nahin hoga.
3. Ghar ka ek clear rule banaiye.
Sab ke liye rule ho:
“Hum apni baat kahenge, lekin loud voice, disrespect aur insulting words ke baghair.” Yeh rule sirf bachche par nahin, ghar ke sab afrad par apply hona chahiye.
4. Achhe behaviour ko foran notice kijiye.
Jab woh gussa control kare ya adab se baat kare to kahin:
“Aaj tum ne disagreement ke bawajood apni voice control ki. Yeh maturity hai.” Specific appreciation achhe behaviour ko mazboot karti hai.
5. Us ki energy ko positive direction dijiye.
Exercise, outdoor games, cycling, masjid ki service ya ghar ki chhoti responsibility us ke mood aur behaviour mein balance la sakti hai.
6. Hafiz hone ko taana na banaiye.
Yeh na kahiye:
“Tum Hafiz ho kar bhi aisa karte ho?”
Is ke bajaye kahiye:
“Allah ne tumhare seene mein Qur’an rakha hai. Ab Qur’an ka sabr aur adab bhi tumhari personality mein nazar aana chahiye.”
7. Usay gusse ka simple plan sikhaiye.
Normal mood mein teen steps tay kar lijiye:

• Foran jawab nahin dena
• Jagah change karna
• Wuzu karke baad mein baat karna

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya: “Asal taqatwar woh hai jo gusse ke waqt apne aap par qaboo rakhe.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Aap ka beta zaroori nahin ke bigad raha ho. Woh us stage mein hai jahan us ki personality tezi se ban rahi hai. Usay mohabbat ke sath firmness, freedom ke sath responsibility aur correction ke sath appreciation dijiye. In sha Allah us ki intelligence aur strong personality aage chal kar us ki sab se badi strength ban sakti hai.
🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip “Strong personality wale bachche ko dabaiye nahin; use adab, self-control aur sahi direction sikhaiye.”
Action Today Aaj us ke calm mood mein 10 minutes baithiye. Pehle us ki do achhi qualities batayiye, phir mil kar gussa control karne ke teen steps tay kijiye.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 10 saal ka beta chhoti chhoti baaton par bahut jaldi gussa ho jata hai. Agar us ki baat na maani jaye to cheekhne lagta hai, cheezen phenk deta hai aur kabhi kabhi behan bhaiyon se bhi badtameezi karta hai. Gusse ke waqt woh hamari koi baat sunne ke liye tayyar nahin hota. Hum pyar se bhi samjha chuke hain aur kabhi sakhti bhi ki, lekin koi khaas farq nahin pada. Main us ka gussa kaise kam karun?
Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhna zaroori hai ke har gussa badtameezi ki alamat nahin hota. Aksar bachcha apne andar ke jazbaat ko alfaaz mein bayan nahin kar pata, is liye woh gusse ke zariye apni baat samjhane ki koshish karta hai. Kabhi usay tawajjuh ki zarurat hoti hai, kabhi thakan hoti hai, kabhi us ki baat nahin suni jati aur kabhi woh ghar ka mahaul dekh kar bhi gussa karna seekh leta hai.
Yaad rakhiye, bachcha gussa lekar paida nahin hota, balki gussa karne ka tareeqah apne environment se seekhta hai.

Allah Ta'ala muttaqeen ki sifat bayan karte hue farmate hain:
"Aur woh log jo gusse ko pee jate hain aur logon ko maaf kar dete hain. Allah nek logon se muhabbat karta hai."
(Surah Aal-e-Imran: 134)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
"Asal taqatwar woh nahin jo kushti mein doosre ko gira de, balki woh hai jo gusse ke waqt apne aap par qaboo rakhe."
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Ek Misal Agar chulhe par rakha hua doodh ubalna shuru ho jaye aur us waqt aag aur tez kar di jaye to doodh bahar gir jata hai. Lekin agar aag halki kar di jaye to wahi doodh aaram se pak jata hai.
Bilkul isi tarah bachche ka gussa bhi hai. Agar us ke gusse ka jawab gusse se diya jaye to masla badhta hai, lekin agar walidain sabr aur hikmat se kaam lein to dheere dheere us ka mizaj badalne lagta hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Gusse ke waqt lecture na dijiye: Jab bachcha gusse mein ho, us waqt usay samjhana ya behas karna faydemand nahin hota. Pehle usay calm hone dijiye, phir pyar se baat kijiye.
2. Us ke jazbaat bhi suniye: Kabhi sirf itna pooch lijiye: "Beta, tum itna gussa kyun hue?" Jab bachcha mehsoos karta hai ke meri baat suni ja rahi hai, to us ka gussa dheere dheere kam hone lagta hai.
3. Achhe behaviour ki tareef kijiye: Agar woh kisi din apna gussa control kar le ya narmi se baat kare to foran us ki tareef kijiye. Appreciation achhi aadaton ko mazboot banati hai.
4. Ghar ka ek rule bana dijiye: Sab ke liye ek usool ho: "Hum apni baat kahenge, lekin cheekh kar nahin." Yeh rule sirf bachche ke liye nahin, walidain ke liye bhi hona chahiye.
5. Roz us ke sath Quality Time guzariye: Har roz kam az kam 15 minutes sirf us ke liye rakhiye. Mobile side par rakh kar us se baat kijiye, us ke sath kheliye ya us ki baatein suniye.
6. Us ki energy ko positive direction dijiye: Games, exercise, cycling, swimming ya kisi physical activity ka intezam kijiye. Bahut se bachchon ka gussa sirf is liye badhta hai kyun ke un ki energy sahi jagah istemal nahin hoti.
7. Routine ko munazzam banaiye: Sone, khane aur screen time ka regular schedule banaiye. Be-tarteebi bhi bachchon ko chirchira bana deti hai.

Kin Ghaltiyon Se Bachiye?

• Gusse mein bachche par cheekhna.
• Har waqt us ki ghaltiyan hi nikalna.
• Us ka doosre bachchon se muqabla karna.
• Gusse ke waqt lambi taqreer shuru kar dena.
• Har baar us ka gussa mobile ya gift de kar khatam karna.

Yeh tareeqe masla kam nahin karte, balkeh kabhi kabhi aur mazboot kar dete hain.

Meri pyari behen! Gussa aag ki tarah hai. Agar shuru mein hikmat, mohabbat aur sabr se usay control kar liya jaye to wahi bachcha mustaqbil mein bahut ba-waqar aur ba-akhlaq insaan ban sakta hai. Is liye bachche ke gusse ko sirf problem na samjhiye, balki us ki tarbiyat ka ek aham mauqa samjhiye.
In sha Allah aap ki mohabbat, dua aur musalsal hikmat us ki shakhsiyat mein khoobsurat tabdeeli la sakti hai.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ke gusse ka jawab gusse se nahin, balki sabr aur hikmat se dijiye."

Action Today Aaj jab aap ka bachcha pur-sukoon mood mein ho, us se sirf 10 minutes baith kar baat kijiye aur us se poochhiye: "Beta, jab tumhein gussa aata hai to us waqt tumhare dil mein kya chal raha hota hai?" Bas us ki baat tawajjuh se suniye, beech mein mat tokiye.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Meri 8 saal ki beti har baat par zid karti hai. Agar us ki pasand ki cheez na mile ya us ki baat na maani jaye to rona shuru kar deti hai, naraz ho jati hai aur apni baat manwa kar hi dam leti hai. Kabhi hum pyar se samjhate hain aur kabhi ghar ka mahaul kharab na ho is liye majbooran us ki baat maan lete hain. Mujhe dar hai ke kahin yeh zid us ki aadat na ban jaye. Main us ki zid kaise khatam karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke har bachcha kabhi na kabhi zid karta hai. Zid bachpan ka ek hissa hai, lekin agar har baar bachche ki zid ke aage walidain jhuk jayein to dheere dheere bachcha yeh seekh leta hai ke "Rona, cheekhna aur zid karna meri baat manwane ka tareeqah hai."
Is liye asal masla bachche ki zid nahin, balkeh hamara us zid par reaction hota hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye ek bachcha har roz darwaze ki ghanti bajata hai. Agar das martaba ghanti bajane ke baad darwaza khul jaye, to agle din woh phir das martaba ghanti bajayega. Kyun? Kyun ke usay yaqeen ho chuka hai ke itni der zid karne ke baad darwaza zaroor khulta hai.
Bilkul isi tarah, jab bachcha baar baar zid karta hai aur aakhir mein us ki baat maan li jati hai, to usay lagta hai ke zid kaam karti hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Har zid poori na kijiye: Sirf wahi baat maaniye jo waqai munasib ho. Har demand poori karna mohabbat nahin, balkeh ghalat aadat ko mazboot karna hai.
2. Faisla badalne ki aadat chhor dijiye: Agar aap ne kisi baat par "nahin" keh diya hai, to sirf rone ya cheekhne ki wajah se apna faisla na badliye. Bachcha isi consistency se seekhta hai.
3. Do jaiz choices dijiye: Seedha "nahin" kehne ke bajaye kabhi yun kahiye: "Chocolate abhi nahin milegi, lekin tum apple ya banana mein se ek choose kar sakti ho." Is se bachche ko choice ka ehsas bhi hota hai aur zid bhi kam hoti hai.
4. Zid ke waqt kam boliye: Jab bachcha ro raha ho ya cheekh raha ho, us waqt lambi explanation na dijiye. Sirf short aur calm jawab dijiye: "Main samajhti hun tumhein yeh cheez pasand hai, lekin abhi yeh mumkin nahin."
5. Zid ke baghair baat maane to foran tareef kijiye: Jab woh kisi din bina zid ke baat maan le to usay zaroor appreciate kijiye: "Mujhe bahut khushi hui ke aaj tum ne samajhdari dikhayi." Yahi tareef dheere dheere us ki achhi aadat banayegi.
6. Maa aur walid ek hi faisla karein: Agar maa mana kare aur walid foran ijazat de dein, to bachcha jaldi samajh jata hai ke kis se apni baat manwani hai. Tarbiyat mein dono ka ek jaisa mawqif bahut zaroori hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:
"Aur apne ghar walon ko namaz ka hukm do aur khud bhi us par sabit qadam raho."
(Surah Taha: 132)

Is ayat se hamein yeh sabaq milta hai ke tarbiyat mein istiqamat (consistency) bahut aham hai.

Meri pyari behen! Zid ko sirf buri aadat samajh kar gussa na kijiye. Isay bachche ko sabr, qana'at aur intezar sikhane ka mauqa banaiye. Aaj agar woh har baat foran milne ki aadat chhor dega, to kal zindagi ki mushkilon ka muqabla bhi zyada himmat se karega, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Har baar zid ke aage jhukna bachche ko yeh sikhata hai ke zid se har baat manwai ja sakti hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bachche ko kisi ek chhoti baat mein do jaiz choices dijiye aur agar woh zid kare to pyar aur sukoon ke sath apne faisle par qaim rahiye.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 13 saal ka beta padhai mein achha hai aur samajhdar bhi hai. Lekin agar hum use kisi baat par samjhayen to woh foran behas shuru kar deta hai. Har baat mein apni daleel deta hai aur yahi sabit karne ki koshish karta hai ke wohi sahi hai. Kabhi kabhi teachers se bhi behas kar leta hai. Mujhe dar hai ke yeh aadat us ki personality ko nuqsan na pahuncha de. Main us ki is aadat ko kaise badlun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle pareshan hone ke bajaye apne bete ko samajhne ki koshish kijiye. Is umar mein bachche apni soch aur apni pehchan banana shuru karte hain. Woh sirf hukm sunna nahin chahte, balki yeh bhi chahte hain ke un ki baat suni jaye.
Yeh quality agar adab ke sath ho to bachcha mustaqbil mein achha leader, speaker ya da'i ban sakta hai. Lekin agar usay narmi, tawazu aur dusron ki baat sunna na sikhaya jaye to wahi quality behas aur takabbur mein badal sakti hai.

Ek Misal Darya ka pani jab apne kinaron ke andar behta hai to kheton ko hara bhara kar deta hai. Lekin jab woh kinare tod deta hai to tabahi macha deta hai.
Isi tarah daleel dene ki salahiyat bhi ek ne'mat hai. Agar us ke sath adab aur khud par qaboo ho to yeh badi taqat ban jati hai, aur agar na ho to rishton ko nuqsan pahuncha deti hai.

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
"Jo shakhs haq par hone ke bawajood jhagra chhor de, us ke liye Jannat ke kinare mein ek ghar ki zimmedari hai."
(Sunan Abi Dawud)

Kya Karein? 1. Pehle us ki baat mukammal suniye: Kabhi kabhi bachcha sirf is liye behas karta hai kyun ke usay lagta hai ke meri baat koi sunta hi nahin.
2. Agar us ki baat durust ho to qabool kijiye: Is se usay insaf ka ehsas hoga aur woh aap ki baat bhi zyada aasani se qabool karega.
3. Behas aur guftagu ka farq samjhaiye: Use batayiye ke apni raye dena achhi baat hai, lekin har baat ko jeetna zaroori nahin hota.
4. Ghar mein adab ke sath ikhtilaf ka mahaul banaiye: Agar walidain bhi narmi se apna ikhtilaf bayan karenge to bachcha bhi wahi tareeqah seekhega.
5. Gusse ke waqt discussion band kar dijiye: Jab awaaz buland hone lage to kahiye: "Hum is baat par baad mein sukoon se baat karenge." Calm hone ke baad hi usay samjhaiye.
6. Tawazu ki tareef kijiye: Jab woh kisi ki baat maan le ya apni ghalti tasleem kare to foran us ki tareef kijiye. Is tarah usay samajh aayega ke asal kamyabi har behas jeetna nahin, balki achha akhlaq hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aap ka beta sirf behas karna nahin seekh raha, balki apni soch ka izhar karna seekh raha hai. Aap ka kaam us ki awaaz ko dabana nahin, balki usay adab, hikmat aur tawazu ke sath istemal karna sikhana hai. Agar aaj usay yeh hunar aa gaya to In sha Allah woh kal logon ko mutasir karne wala nahin, balki un ke dil jeetne wala insaan banega.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Apni baat kehna hunar hai, lekin dusron ki baat sunna us se bhi bada hunar hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath 10 minutes baithiye aur us se kahiye: "Main tumhari baat poori tawajjuh se sunna chahti hun." Pehle us ki baat suniye, phir apni baat narmi se samjhaiye.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 11 saal ka beta zara si baat par bahut gussa ho jata hai. Agar us ki marzi ke mutabiq kaam na ho to cheekhne lagta hai, gusse mein cheezen phenk deta hai, darwaza zor se band karta hai aur kabhi kabhi kamre mein ja kar khud ko band kar leta hai. Baad mein use apni ghalti ka ehsas bhi hota hai, lekin phir wahi rawayya dobara nazar aata hai. Main us ki is aadat ko kaise badlun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke aap ka beta sirf gussa nahin kar raha, balki use apne jazbaat ko theek tareeqe se zahir karna nahin aata. Jab bachcha udaasi, mayoosi ya narazgi ko alfaaz mein bayan nahin kar pata to kabhi cheekh kar, kabhi cheezen phenk kar aur kabhi darwaza patakh kar apna gussa nikalta hai.
Yeh rawayya agar waqt par na badla jaye to dheere dheere us ki personality ka hissa ban sakta hai. Lekin achhi baat yeh hai ke is umar mein bachche ko Emotional Control sikhaya ja sakta hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar pressure cooker ki bhaap ke liye rasta na ho to andar dabao barhta rehta hai aur aakhirkar zor se nikalta hai. Lekin jab us ki steam theek tareeqe se nikalti rahe to cooker bhi mehfooz rehta hai.
Bachchon ke jazbaat bhi kuch isi tarah hote hain. Unhein gussa karne se nahin, balki gusse ko sahi tareeqe se zahir karna sikhane ki zarurat hoti hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:
"Rahman ke bande woh hain jo zameen par narmi se chalte hain aur jab jahil un se sakht baat karein to woh salamati ki baat karte hain."
(Surah Al-Furqan: 63)

Aur Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
"Asal taqatwar woh hai jo gusse ke waqt apne aap par qaboo rakhe."
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Kya Karein? 1. Gusse ke waqt us se behas na kijiye: Jab bachcha cheekh raha ho to us waqt usay samjhana faydemand nahin hota. Pehle usay sukoon hasil karne ka mauqa dijiye.
2. Baad mein us ke jazbaat samajhiye: Jab woh normal ho jaye to pyar se poochhiye: "Beta, us waqt tumhein sab se zyada kis baat par gussa aaya tha?" Is se bachcha apne jazbaat ko alfaaz dena seekhega.
3. Ghar ke rules pehle se tay kar dijiye: Pyar se samjha dijiye ke gussa aa sakta hai, lekin: cheekhna nahin, cheezen phenkna nahin, darwaza patakhna nahin. Ghar ke rules sab ke liye barabar hon.
4. Gusse ka halal tareeqah sikhaiye: Usay batayiye ke jab gussa aaye to: kuch der khamosh ho jaye, paani piye, wuzu kare, ya dus minute ke liye alag baith jaye. Yeh kamzori nahin, balkeh maturity hai.
5. Chhoti kamyabi ki bhi tareef kijiye: Agar kisi din us ne gussa control kar liya ya cheekhne ke bajaye khamoshi ikhtiyar ki to foran us ki tareef kijiye. Isi se naye behaviour ko taqat milti hai.
6. Apna rawayya bhi dekhte rahiye: Bachche sirf baatein nahin, walidain ka andaaz bhi seekhte hain. Agar ghar mein masail sukoon aur narmi se hal honge to bachcha bhi dheere dheere wahi tareeqah ikhtiyar karega.

Meri pyari behen! Aap ka beta bura bachcha nahin hai. Woh abhi apne jazbaat ko sambhalna seekh raha hai. Aaj agar aap use gusse ko dabana nahin, balki usay sahi tareeqe se sambhalna sikha dein, to In sha Allah woh mustaqbil mein mushkil halaat mein bhi pur-sukoon aur ba-waqar insaan banega.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ko yeh mat sikhaiye ke gussa kabhi na aaye; use yeh sikhaiye ke gussa aaye to us ka izhar kaise kiya jaye."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath baith kar mil kar "Gusse ke 3 Rules" likhiye. Misal ke taur par: (1) Cheekhna nahin, (2) Cheezen nahin phenkni, (3) Gussa aaye to paani peena ya wuzu karna. Phir is list ko us ke kamre mein laga dijiye.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 9 saal ka beta hamari baat sunne ke bajaye aksar apni marzi karta hai. Namaz, padhai, sone aur rozmarrah ke kaamon ke liye use baar baar yaad dilana padta hai. Kabhi pyar se samjhate hain aur kabhi daant bhi dete hain, lekin zyada farq mehsoos nahin hota. Main chahti hun ke mera beta khushi se walidain ki baat maanne wala aur ba-adab bane. Main kya karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Har walidain ki yahi khwahish hoti hai ke un ki aulaad farmanbardar ho. Lekin yaad rakhiye, farmanbardari sirf daant ya saza se paida nahin hoti, balki mohabbat, achhe ta'alluq aur musalsal tarbiyat se paida hoti hai.
Jis bachche ka dil apne walidain ke qareeb hota hai, woh un ki baat bhi zyada khushi se maanta hai. Is liye sirf yeh mat dekhiye ke bachcha baat nahin maan raha, balki yeh bhi dekhiye ke hamara us se rishta kaisa hai.

Ek Misal Jab koi coach apni team ko training deta hai to woh har roz aik hi bunyadi skills ki practice karwata hai. Woh har ghalti par cheekhta nahin, balkeh baar baar sahi tareeqah dikhata hai. Isi musalsal practice ki wajah se khiladi behtar bante hain.
Bachchon ki tarbiyat bhi isi tarah hoti hai. Ek do martaba keh dene se aadat nahin banti, balki pyar, sabr aur istiqamat se dheere dheere banti hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:
"Ae Iman walon! Apne aap ko aur apne ghar walon ko us aag se bachao jis ka indhan insaan aur pathar hain."
(Surah At-Tahrim: 6)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
"Tum mein se har shakhs zimmedar hai aur har shakhs se us ki zimmedari ke bare mein poochha jayega."
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Kya Karein? 1. Ek waqt mein ek hi hidayat dijiye: Agar aap ek saath kai baatein kahengi to bachcha uljhan ka shikar ho sakta hai. Chhoti aur wazeh hidayat zyada asar karti hai.
2. Hukm dene ke bajaye connection banaiye: Kabhi us ke paas baith kar pyar se kahiye: "Beta, mujhe tum par bharosa hai. Mujhe yaqeen hai tum meri baat maan loge." Yeh alfaaz aksar daant se zyada asar karte hain.
3. Pehli martaba baat maanne par tareef kijiye: Jab woh foran baat maan le to us ki honsla afzai zaroor kijiye: "Mujhe tumhari yeh aadat bahut achhi lagi ke tum ne ek hi baar mein baat maan li."
4. Ghar ka routine sab ke liye ek jaisa rakhiye: Namaz, padhai, sone aur screen time ke auqat pehle se tay hon. Jab qawaid sab par barabar lagu hote hain to bachcha unhein aasani se qabool karta hai.
5. Baar baar yaad dilane ki aadat kam kijiye: Har do minute baad pukarne ke bajaye ek hidayat dijiye, phir dekh lijiye ke us ne amal kiya ya nahin. Is se bachcha zimmedari lena seekhta hai.
6. Khud bhi wahi kijiye jo us se chahte hain: Agar walidain ek doosre ka ehtram karenge, waade nibhayenge aur ghar ke qawaid ki pabandi karenge to bachcha bhi wahi rawayya ikhtiyar karega.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, farmanbardari ek din mein paida nahin hoti. Har roz ki chhoti chhoti aadatein mil kar bachche ka kirdar banati hain.
Aaj aap ka sabr, dua aur husn-e-akhlaq hi kal us ki behtareen shakhsiyat ki bunyad banega, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachcha pehle walidain se muhabbat karna seekhta hai, phir un ki baat maanna seekhta hai."

Action Today Aaj kisi ek kaam ke liye apne bete ko sirf ek martaba narmi se hidayat dijiye. Jab woh us par amal kare to foran us ki tareef kijiye aur usay mehsoos karaiye ke farmanbardari qadr ki baat hai.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 12 saal ka beta pehle bahut adab se baat karta tha, lekin ab zara si baat par aawaz buland kar deta hai. Agar hum use samjhayen to woh bhi oonchi aawaz mein jawab deta hai aur kabhi kabhi gusse mein badtameezi bhi kar baithta hai. Baad mein maafi maang leta hai, lekin kuch din baad phir wahi rawayya dikhai deta hai. Main chahti hun ke us ke dil mein walidain ka ehtram dobara mazboot ho. Main kya karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle mayoos mat hoiye. Aap ne likha hai ke gusse ke baad aap ka beta maafi bhi maang leta hai. Yeh is baat ki nishani hai ke us ke dil mein ehtram abhi zinda hai, lekin gusse ke waqt woh apni zaban par qaboo nahin rakh pata. Is liye sirf us ki zaban ko nahin, balki us ke gusse aur jazbaat ko tarbiyat dene ki zarurat hai.
Yaad rakhiye, jab bachcha baar baar oonchi aawaz mein baat karta hai aur use roka na jaye to dheere dheere yahi us ka normal tareeqah ban jata hai.

Ek Misal Echo (goonj) wali jagah par jis lehje mein aawaz nikali jaye, wahi lehja wapas sunai deta hai. Agar narmi se bola jaye to narmi sunai deti hai, aur agar sakhti se bola jaye to sakhti hi laut kar aati hai.
Ghar ka mahaul bhi kuch aisa hi hota hai. Bachche aksar wahi lehja seekhte hain jo roz apne ghar mein sunte hain.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:
"Aur apne walidain se ihsan ka muamla karo... aur un se 'uff' tak na kaho aur un se izzat ke sath baat karo."
(Surah Al-Isra: 23)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
"Woh hum mein se nahin jo hamare chhoton par reham na kare aur hamare baron ka ehtram na kare."
(Sunan at-Tirmidhi)

Kya Karein? 1. Oonchi aawaz ka jawab oonchi aawaz se na dijiye: Sukoon se kahiye: "Beta, jab tum aahista baat karoge tab main tumhari baat zaroor sunungi." Is se bachcha seekhega ke narmi se baat karne par hi guftagu aage badhti hai.
2. Gusse ke baad zaroor baat kijiye: Jab woh pur-sukoon ho jaye to us se poochhiye: "Agar main tum se isi lehje mein baat karti to tumhein kaisa lagta?" Yeh sawal us ke andar soch paida karega.
3. Ghar ka ek adabi qanoon bana dijiye: Sab ke liye usool ho: "Hum ikhtilaf kar sakte hain, lekin badtameezi nahin karenge." Jab qanoon sab par barabar lagu hota hai to bachcha use aasani se qabool karta hai.
4. Achhe lehje ki tareef kijiye: Jab woh narmi se baat kare to foran kahiye: "Aaj tum ne bahut adab se baat ki, mujhe tum par fakhr mehsoos hua." Tareef achhe rawayye ko mazboot karti hai.
5. Walidain apna lehja bhi dekhein: Agar ghar mein miyaan biwi ek doosre se izzat aur narmi se baat karenge to bachcha bhi dheere dheere wahi zaban seekhega. Tarbiyat sirf alfaaz se nahin, misaal se hoti hai.
6. Walidain ke ehtram ke waqiat sunaiye: Kabhi Rasulullah ﷺ aur Sahabah-e-Kiram ke walidain ke sath husn-e-sulook ke waqiat sunaiye. Bachche kahaniyon se nasihat ke muqable mein zyada asar lete hain.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, adab ek din mein paida nahin hota. Har roz ka narm lehja, dua, achhi misaal aur musalsal tarbiyat mil kar bachche ke dil mein walidain ka ehtram mazboot karte hain. In sha Allah aaj ki aap ki hikmat kal us ke akhlaq ki pehchan banegi.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Jis ghar mein alfaaz mein ehtram hota hai, us ghar ke bachchon ki zaban mein bhi adab aa jata hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath 10 minutes baithiye aur mil kar ghar ka ek qanoon likhiye: "Hum gusse mein bhi oonchi aawaz se baat nahin karenge." Phir sab se pehle walidain khud is qanoon par amal karne ka iradah karein.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 10 saal ka beta jab bhi koi ghalti karta hai to use tasleem nahin karta. Chahe hamare paas wazeh saboot bhi ho, phir bhi bahane banata hai, kabhi doosron par ilzam laga deta hai aur kabhi apni safai pesh karne lagta hai. Hum use baar baar samjhate hain ke ghalti maan lena bahaduri ki baat hai, lekin us ki aadat nahin badal rahi. Mujhe fikr hai ke yeh aadat us ki shakhsiyat ko mutasir na kar de. Main us ki islah kaise karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke har woh bachcha jo apni ghalti nahin maanta, zaroori nahin ke woh jhoota ya mutakabbir ho. Aksar bachcha is liye ghalti nahin maanta kyun ke use darr hota hai ke agar sach bol diya to daant padegi, saza milegi ya meri beizzati hogi. Is liye woh apni ghalti chhupane ki koshish karta hai.
Agar hum bachche ko yeh ehsas dila dein ke "Ghalti maan loge to hum tumhari madad karenge, sirf daantenge nahin" to dheere dheere us mein sach bolne ki himmat paida hone lagti hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar doctor ke paas jane wala mareez apni bimari chhupa le to doctor us ka sahi ilaj nahin kar sakta. Ilaj ki pehli seedhi yahi hai ke mareez sach bataye.
Bilkul isi tarah, jab bachcha apni ghalti tasleem karta hai to us ki islah ka darwaza khul jata hai. Lekin jab woh ghalti chhupata hai to masla aur barhta chala jata hai.

Allah Ta'ala hamein Hazrat Adam علیہ السلام ka waqia sunate hain. Jab un se ghalti hui to unhon ne foran Allah Ta'ala se arz ki:

"Ae hamare Rabb! Hum ne apni jaanon par zulm kiya. Agar Tu hamein na bakhshe aur hum par reham na farmaye to hum nuqsan uthane walon mein se ho jayenge."
(Surah Al-A'raf: 23)

Is ke bar'aks, Iblees ne apni ghalti tasleem karne ke bajaye takabbur kiya aur Allah ki rehmat se mehroom ho gaya.

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
"Har insaan ghalti karne wala hai, aur behtareen ghalti karne wale woh hain jo taubah karte hain."
(Sunan at-Tirmidhi)

Kya Karein? 1. Ghalti maan lene par us ki himmat badhaiye: Agar bachcha sach bol de to foran us ki tareef kijiye: "Mujhe tumhari ghalti se zyada tumhari sachchai pasand aayi." Is se woh samjhega ke sach bolna qadr ki baat hai.
2. Har ghalti ko jang na banaiye: Islah ka maqsad bachche ko sharminda karna nahin, balkeh behtar banana hai. Narmi ke sath samjhaiye ke ghalti har insaan se hoti hai.
3. Khud bhi apni ghalti maan kar misaal dijiye: Agar walidain se koi ghalti ho jaye to bachche ke saamne kahiye: "Beta, aaj meri ghalti thi. Mujhe maaf kar do." Bachcha wahi rawayya sab se zyada seekhta hai jo woh ghar mein dekhta hai.
4. Sochne wale sawal poochhiye: Us se kahiye: "Agar yahi ghalti tumhara dost karta to tum use kya mashwarah dete?" Aksar bachcha is sawal ka jawab dete hue apni ghalti khud samajh leta hai.
5. Ghalti aur bachche mein farq rakhiye: Yeh na kahiye: "Tum bahut bure ho." Balkeh kahiye: "Yeh kaam ghalat tha, lekin tum is se behtar bachche ho." Is se us ki self-respect bhi baqi rehti hai aur islah ka darwaza bhi khula rehta hai.
6. Sach bolne ka mahaul banaiye: Bachche ko yaqeen dila dijiye ke agar woh sach bolega to pehle us ki baat suni jayegi, phir faisla hoga. Jab ghar ka mahaul mehfooz hota hai to bachche jhoot aur bahane kam banate hain.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, jis bachche ko apni ghalti tasleem karna aa jaye, woh zindagi bhar seekhne aur behtar banne ka safar jari rakhta hai. Aaj agar aap us ke dil mein sachchai, tawazu aur himmat paida kar dein to In sha Allah kal woh apni kamzoriyon ko chhupane ke bajaye unhein dur karne ki koshish karega.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ko sirf ghalti se na daraiye, balki sach bolne ka hausla dijiye."

Action Today Aaj apne bete se kisi purani chhoti ghalti ka zikr karke us se kahiye: "Agar tum sach bata doge to main pehle tumhari baat sunungi, phir mil kar is ka hal dhoondhenge." Is tarah us ke dil mein sach bolne ka aitimad paida kijiye.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 11 saal ka beta namaz padhta to hai, lekin bahut yaad dilane ke baad. Agar hum na kahen to namaz muakhkhar kar deta hai ya bhool jata hai. Kabhi kehta hai, "Abhi padh leta hun," lekin phir khel ya mobile mein masroof ho jata hai. Main chahti hun ke woh sirf hamare kehne par nahin, balkeh khushi aur shauq se namaz padhe. Main use namaz ka paband kaise banaun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke aksar bachche namaz se nafrat nahin karte, balkeh abhi tak un ke dil mein namaz ki muhabbat paida nahin hui hoti. Agar namaz sirf roz ka ek hukm ban jaye to bachcha use bojh samajhne lagta hai. Lekin jab usay ehsaas ho jaye ke namaz Allah se mulaqat, us se baat karne aur us ki qurbat hasil karne ka zariya hai, to dheere dheere us ka dil namaz ki taraf khinchne lagta hai.
Bachche sirf hamari baat nahin sunte, woh hamari zindagi bhi dekhte hain. Agar ghar mein azaan hote hi sab kaam ruk jayein aur walidain khushi ke sath namaz ke liye uth khade hon, to bachcha bhi namaz ko ghar ki sab se aham aadat samajhne lagta hai.

Ek Misal Jab koi bachcha cycle chalana seekhta hai to shuru mein usay baar baar yaad dilana, sambhalna aur hausla dena padta hai. Kuch din baad wahi bachcha baghair sahare ke cycle chalane lagta hai.
Namaz ki aadat bhi isi tarah banti hai. Pehle walidain ka sahara, muhabbat aur musalsal rehnumai chahiye hoti hai. Phir dheere dheere bachcha khud namaz ki taraf badhne lagta hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Apne ghar walon ko namaz ka hukm do aur khud bhi us par sabit qadam raho."
(Surah Taha: 132)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
"Apni aulaad ko saat saal ki umar mein namaz ka hukm do..."
(Sunan Abi Dawud)

Is hadees se maloom hota hai ke namaz ki aadat ek din mein nahin, balkeh musalsal tarbiyat se paida hoti hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Namaz ka mahaul banaiye: Azaan hote hi TV, mobile aur doosri masroofiyat band kar dijiye. Bachcha mehsoos kare ke Allah ki pukar har kaam se zyada aham hai.
2. Sirf hukm na dijiye, sath lekar chaliye: Kabhi pyar se kahiye: "Beta, aaj hum dono mil kar namaz padhte hain." Agar walid bete ko masjid le jayein to us ke dil mein namaz ki muhabbat aur bhi mazboot hoti hai.
3. Namaz ki muhabbat paida kijiye: Roz chand minute Allah ki ne'maton, Jannat aur namaz ki fazilat ke bare mein baat kijiye. Bachcha pehle muhabbat se judta hai, phir aadat banata hai.
4. Pabandi ki tareef kijiye: Jab woh waqt par namaz padhe to foran us ki hosla afzai kijiye: "Mujhe tumhari yeh baat bahut pasand aayi ke tum ne azaan ke baad foran namaz padhi."
5. Routine ko namaz ke mutabiq banaiye: Khel, homework aur screen time ka schedule is tarah banaiye ke namaz us ki wajah se muakhkhar na ho.
6. Dua ko kabhi na chhodiye: Har roz Allah Ta'ala se dua maangiye ke woh aap ke bachche ke dil mein namaz ki muhabbat paida kar de. Hidayat aur ibadat ki taufeeq dene wali Zaat sirf Allah hi hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, hamara maqsad sirf itna nahin ke bachcha namaz padh le, balkeh yeh hai ke us ke dil mein yeh ehsaas paida ho jaye ke "Mera Rabb mujhe bula raha hai." Jab Allah ki muhabbat dil mein jagah bana leti hai to namaz bojh nahin rehti, balkeh sukoon ban jati hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ko namaz ka hukm dene se pehle us ke dil mein Allah ki muhabbat paida kijiye."

Action Today Aaj ek namaz apne bete ke sath padhiye. Namaz ke baad sirf do minute us se poochhiye: "Beta, namaz padh kar tumhein kaisa mehsoos hota hai?" Us ki baat tawajjuh se suniye aur us ke liye dil se dua kijiye.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera beta rozana Quran padhta hai, madrasah bhi jata hai aur kai suratein yaad bhi hain. Lekin us ke akhlaaq mein woh tabdeeli nazar nahin aati jis ki hamein umeed thi. Kabhi jhoot bol deta hai, behen bhaiyon se jhagra karta hai, jaldi gussa ho jata hai aur walidain ki baat bhi tawajjuh se nahin sunta. Main pareshan hun ke jab woh Quran padh raha hai to us ke akhlaaq kyun nahin badal rahe? Kya meri tarbiyat mein koi kami hai?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle apne aap ko malamat na kijiye. Yeh sawal bahut se walidain ke zehan mein aata hai. Yaad rakhiye, sirf Quran padh lena aur Quran ke mutabiq zindagi guzarna, dono mein farq hai.
Quran Allah Ta'ala ki hidayat hai. Jab bachcha sirf lafz padhta hai lekin us ke ma'ani, paigham aur amal se us ka rishta nahin banta, to tilawat ka ajr to milta hai, lekin akhlaaq mein tabdeeli dheere dheere aati hai. Is liye hamein bachche ko sirf Quran padhana nahin, balkeh Quran jeena bhi sikhana hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar koi doctor dawa sirf haath mein pakad kar rakhe aur kabhi use khaye hi na, to kya us ki bimari door hogi?
Bilkul isi tarah, Quran sirf padh lene se maqsad poora nahin hota. Jab us ki taleemat par amal shuru hota hai tabhi zindagi aur akhlaaq badalne lagte hain.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Beshak yeh Quran us raste ki rehnumai karta hai jo sab se seedha hai."
(Surah Al-Isra: 9)

Aur jab Sayyidah Aishah رضی اللہ عنہا se Rasulullah ﷺ ke akhlaaq ke bare mein poocha gaya to unhon ne farmaya:

"Aap ﷺ ke akhlaaq hi Quran the."
(Sahih Muslim)

Yani Nabi ﷺ ne sirf Quran ki tilawat nahin ki, balkeh Quran ko apni zindagi bana liya.

Kya Karein? 1. Sirf tilawat na poochhiye, paigham bhi poochhiye: Roz yeh sawal zaroor kijiye: "Aaj Quran ne tumhein kya sikhaya?" Is se bachcha Quran ko sirf sabaq nahin, rehnumai samajhne lagega.
2. Roz ek ayat par amal kijiye: Har din sirf ek ayat ka asaan tarjumah batayiye aur poore ghar mein faislah kijiye ke aaj isi ek baat par amal karenge.
3. Akhlaaq ko Quran se jodiye: Jab bachcha sach bole, maaf kare ya kisi ki madad kare to pyar se kahiye: "Beta, yahi baat Quran hamein sikhata hai." Is tarah us ke zehan mein Quran aur akhlaaq ka talluq mazboot hoga.
4. Ghar ka mahaul Qurani banaiye: Agar walidain Quran padhein lekin ghar mein gussa, cheekh pukar aur bad-zabani ho to bachcha alfaaz se zyada rawayya seekhega.
5. Ambiya aur Sahabah ke waqiat sunaiye: Bachchon ko un logon ke waqiat sunaiye jinhon ne Quran ki taleemat ko apni zindagi mein utara. Kahaniyan bachchon ke dil par gehra asar chhodti hain.
6. Dua aur sabr ko kabhi na chhodiye: Akhlaaq ki tabdeeli waqt leti hai. Har roz Allah Ta'ala se dua maangiye ke woh aap ke bachche ke dil ko Quran ke noor se roshan kar de aur us ke akhlaaq ko behtareen bana de.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, hamara maqsad sirf Hafiz-e-Quran banana nahin, balkeh Quran wala insaan banana hai. Jis din bachcha yeh samajh jayega ke Quran sirf padhne ke liye nahin, balkeh zindagi guzarne ke liye nazil hua hai, us din us ki guftagu, us ka gussa, us ki sachchai aur us ke akhlaaq mein tabdeeli aana shuru ho jayegi, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche se sirf yeh na poochhiye ke us ne kitna Quran padha, balkeh yeh bhi poochhiye ke us ne Quran ki kaun si baat apni zindagi mein apnai."

Action Today Aaj apne bachche ke sath sirf ek ayat ka asaan tarjumah padhiye aur us se poochhiye: "Hum aaj is ayat par kaise amal kar sakte hain?" Phir poora ghar us ek baat par amal karne ki koshish kare. Yaqeen maaniye, isi tarah Quran dheere dheere dilon aur akhlaaq ko badalta hai.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere do bachche hain. Alhamdulillah namaz bhi padhte hain, Quran bhi padhte hain aur Islamic school mein bhi taleem hasil kar rahe hain. Lekin mujhe fikr rehti hai ke kahin un ki ibadat sirf ek aadat ban kar na reh jaye. Main chahti hun ke un ke dil mein Allah ki sachchi muhabbat paida ho, woh Allah se dua bhi karein, gunahon se bhi bachein aur Aakhirat ki kamyabi ko apni zindagi ka asal maqsad samjhein. Main ek maa hone ke nate ghar mein kya karun ke mere bachchon ke dil Allah aur Aakhirat se jud jayein?

Rehnumai Yeh bahut khubsurat soch hai. Har maa chahti hai ke us ka bachcha sirf namazi ya hafiz hi na bane, balkeh Allah ka sachcha banda bane. Yaad rakhiye, bachcha jis se muhabbat karta hai, us ki baat khushi se maanta hai. Is liye tarbiyat ka pehla qadam Allah ki muhabbat hai, sirf Allah ka khauf nahin.
Kabhi kabhi hum bachchon ko har baat par sirf yeh kehte rehte hain: "Yeh mat karo, Allah naraz ho jayega." Yeh baat apni jagah durust hai, lekin agar bachcha Allah ko sirf saza dene wali Zaat samajhne lage aur us ki rehmat, muhabbat aur ihsan ko na pehchane, to us ka Allah se rishta mukammal nahin ban pata.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek bachche ko apne walid ke bare mein sirf itna bataya jaye ke woh daantte hain aur saza dete hain, lekin yeh na bataya jaye ke woh us se kitni muhabbat karte hain, us ki har zarurat poori karte hain aur us ki khushi ke liye mehnat karte hain, to kya us bachche ke dil mein walid ki sachchi muhabbat paida hogi?
Isi tarah bachche ko Allah ka ta'aruf sirf khauf se nahin, balkeh us ki rahmat, muhabbat aur ne'maton ke zariye bhi karaiye.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Aur jo iman wale hain, woh sab se zyada Allah se muhabbat karte hain."
(Surah Al-Baqarah: 165)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas رضی اللہ عنہ se farmaya:

"Allah ka khayal rakho, Allah tumhari hifazat farmayega."
(Sunan at-Tirmidhi)

Dekhiye, Nabi ﷺ ne ek bachche ke dil mein sab se pehle Allah ke sath muhabbat aur bharose ka rishta mazboot kiya.

Kya Karein? 1. Roz Allah ki ek ne'mat ka zikr kijiye: Kabhi aankhon ki ne'mat, kabhi pani, kabhi phool, kabhi parindon aur kabhi maa baap ki muhabbat ka zikr karke poochhiye: "Beta, yeh sab hamein kis ne diya?" Is se bachcha Allah ko apni zindagi ka Mohsin samajhne lagega.
2. Dua ko rozmarrah ki zindagi ka hissa banaiye: Khana khane se pehle, safar se pehle, imtihan se pehle aur sone se pehle bachchon ke sath mil kar dua maangiye. Jab koi dua qubool ho jaye to pyar se kahiye: "Dekho, Allah ne hamari dua sun li."
3. Jannat ki baatein bhi sunaiye: Sirf Jahannam ka zikr na kijiye. Bachchon ko Jannat ki ne'matein, Allah ki mulaqat aur mominon ki kamyabi ke waqiat bhi batayiye, taki un ke dil mein Aakhirat ki tamanna paida ho.
4. Neki ko Allah ki muhabbat se jodiye: Jab bachcha sach bole, namaz padhe ya kisi ki madad kare to sirf "Shabash" na kahiye, balkeh kahiye: "Allah tum se khush hoga, In sha Allah."
5. Allah ki qudrat dikhaiye: Kabhi aasman, chand, sitare, baarish, darakht aur phool dekh kar Allah ki qudrat ke bare mein baat kijiye. Bachche fitrat ke zariye Allah ko bahut jaldi pehchante hain.
6. Khud Allah par tawakkul ka namoonah baniye: Jab ghar mein koi mushkil aaye to bachchon ke samne dua kijiye aur kahiye: "Allah hamare liye kaafi hai." Bachche walidain ka yaqeen dekh kar Allah par bharosa karna seekhte hain.

Yaad rakhiye, jis bachche ke dil mein Allah ki muhabbat paida ho jaye, us ke liye ibadat bojh nahin rehti, gunah se bachna aasaan ho jata hai aur Aakhirat us ki zindagi ka asal maqsad ban jati hai. Hamara maqsad sirf ibadat karne wale bachche banana nahin, balkeh Allah se muhabbat karne wale bachche banana hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ko Allah ke ahkam se pehle Allah ki muhabbat se waqif karaiye. Jis dil mein muhabbat hoti hai, us ke liye ita'at aasaan ho jati hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bachchon ke sath sirf 5 minute baithiye. Allah Ta'ala ki ek ne'mat ka zikr kijiye, phir sab mil kar us par "Alhamdulillah" kahiye aur ek chhoti si dua maangiye. Roz ka yeh chhota sa amal, In sha Allah, bachchon ke dil ko Allah aur Aakhirat se jod dega.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera beta 14 saal ka hai aur meri beti 13 saal ki hai. Aaj kal mobile, internet, social media aur buri sohbat ki wajah se har taraf fitnon ka mahaul hai. Mujhe har waqt yeh fikr rehti hai ke kahin mere bachche kisi ghalat raste par na chal padhein. Main har waqt un par nazar bhi nahin rakh sakti. Main kya karun ke un ke dil mein Allah ka khauf, gunahon se nafrat aur neki ki muhabbat paida ho jaye aur woh tanhai mein bhi apne aap ko gunahon se bacha sakein?

Rehnumai Aap ki fikr bilkul fitri hai. Aaj ke daur mein har walidain isi imtihan se guzar rahe hain. Lekin yaad rakhiye, bachchon ko sirf pabandiyon se nahin bachaya ja sakta. Asal hifazat us waqt hoti hai jab un ke dil mein Allah ka ehsaas zinda ho jaye.
Jab bachcha chhota hota hai to woh walidain ke darr se ghalat kaam nahin karta. Lekin jab woh no'umri mein dakhil hota hai to us ke faisle us ka imaan, us ka zameer aur Allah se us ka talluq karte hain. Isi liye is umar mein sirf nigrani nahin, balkeh dil ki tarbiyat sab se zyada zaroori hoti hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar kisi ghar ke darwaze par mazboot tala laga diya jaye, lekin khidkiyan khuli chhod di jayein, to chor phir bhi andar aa sakta hai.
Isi tarah sirf mobile chheen lena ya sakht pabandiyan laga dena kaafi nahin hota. Jab tak bachche ke dil ke darwaze par taqwa ka tala nahin lagta, fitne kisi na kisi raste se andar aa hi jate hain.

Allah Ta'ala ne Hazrat Luqman ki naseehat bayan karte hue farmaya:

"Ae mere bete! Agar koi amal rai ke dane ke barabar bhi ho, phir woh kisi chattan ke andar ya aasmanon ya zameen mein kahin bhi ho, Allah use zaroor le aayega."
(Surah Luqman: 16)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Saat khush naseeb logon mein ek woh naujawan bhi hoga jis ne apni jawani Allah ki ibadat mein guzari."
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Yeh hadees no'umr bachchon ko umeed deti hai ke fitnon ke daur mein bhi Allah ki ita'at par qayam rehna bahut badi kamyabi hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Sirf nigran na baniye, un ke dost bhi baniye: Aisa rishta banaiye ke agar un se koi ghalti ho jaye ya koi uljhan paida ho to sab se pehle woh aap se baat karna pasand karein.
2. Allah ka ehsaas paida kijiye: Rozmarrah ki baton mein yeh jumle istemal kijiye: "Allah hamein dekh raha hai." "Allah sach bolne walon se muhabbat karta hai." Is se Allah ka talluq un ki roz ki zindagi ka hissa banega.
3. Mobile se zyada dil ki hifazat kijiye: Mobile ke qawaid zaroor banaiye, lekin sath hi yeh bhi samjhaiye ke har cheez Allah dekh raha hai. Jab andar ki nigrani jag jati hai to bahar ki nigrani kam karni padti hai.
4. Nek sohbat ka intezam kijiye: Masjid, saleh dost, Islamic programs, sports aur mufeed activities mein un ki shirkat badhaiye. Achhe dost bahut se fitnon ka darwaza band kar dete hain.
5. No'umri ke masail par khul kar baat kijiye: Agar walidain baat nahin karenge to social media aur ghalat log un ke teacher ban jayenge. Muhabbat aur hikmat ke sath un ki rehnumai kijiye.
6. Har roz un ke liye dua kijiye: Apni har namaz mein Allah Ta'ala se un ke imaan, haya aur akhlaaq ki hifazat ki dua maangiye. Bachchon ki hidayat aur istiqamat Allah Ta'ala ka sab se bada tohfah hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aap hamesha apne bachchon ke sath nahin reh sakti, lekin agar aap un ke dil mein yeh yaqeen paida kar dein ke "Allah har jagah mere sath hai aur mujhe dekh raha hai," to yahi ehsaas un ka sab se mazboot muhafiz ban jayega. Hamara maqsad sirf aise bachche banana nahin jo walidain ke samne gunah se bachein, balkeh aise bachche banana hai jo tanhai mein bhi Allah ki khatir gunah ko chhod dein. In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ki hifazat cameras nahin karte, Allah ka ehsaas karta hai. Jis dil mein taqwa zinda ho, woh tanhai mein bhi apni hifazat kar leta hai."

Action Today Aaj apne no'umr bete ya beti ke sath 15 minute tanhai mein baithiye. Un se sirf yeh sawal poochhiye: "Aaj ke daur mein tumhein sab se zyada kis fitne ka darr lagta hai?" Un ki baat baghair tokay suniye, phir pyar se Allah par bharosa, dua aur gunahon se bachne ke tareeqe samjhaiye. Yeh guftagu un ke dil ko aap se bhi joregi aur Allah se bhi, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 10 saal ka beta har waqt mobile mangta rehta hai. Agar mobile na dun to naraz ho jata hai, rota hai ya zid karne lagta hai. Khana khate waqt, safar mein ya ghar mein farigh hote hi us ki pehli farmaish mobile hoti hai. Aur jab mobile mil jaye to ghanton games ya videos mein laga rehta hai. Mujhe darr hai ke kahin is ka bura asar us ki padhai, ibadat, sehat aur akhlaaq par na pade. Main use mobile ki aadat se kaise bachaun?

Rehnumai Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke aap ka bachcha sirf mobile ka aadi nahin hua, balkeh us fori khushi (instant entertainment) ka aadi ho gaya hai jo mobile use har lamhe deta rehta hai. Har nayi video, har game aur har notification us ke dimagh ko maze ka ehsaas deti hai. Phir dheere dheere usay kitab, padhai, ghar ki guftagu aur aam zindagi kam dilchasp lagne lagti hai.
Lekin khushi ki baat yeh hai ke yeh aadat badli ja sakti hai. Bachche ko sirf mobile se door karna kaafi nahin, balkeh us ki zindagi ko mobile se zyada khubsurat banana zaroori hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar koi bachcha roz roz mithai khata rahe to kuch arse baad use phal bhi be-mazah lagne lagte hain. Lekin jab mithai kam kar di jaye aur sehatmand ghiza ki aadat dali jaye to dheere dheere us ka zaiqah badal jata hai.
Mobile bhi dimagh ke liye kuch isi tarah kaam karta hai. Is liye mobile kam karne ke sath sath zindagi ki doosri khushiyan bhi bachche ko deni hongi.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Wal-'Asr. Innal insaana lafi khusr..."
"Waqt ki qasam! Beshak insaan khasare mein hai..."
(Surah Al-'Asr)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Do ne'matein aisi hain jin mein bahut se log khasare mein rehte hain: sehat aur faraghat."
(Sahih al-Bukhari)

Yeh hadees hamein sikhati hai ke agar bachche ka farigh waqt achhe kaamon mein na lage to woh aasani se ghalat aadaton ka shikar ho sakta hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Mobile achanak band na kijiye: Rozana mobile ka ek muqarrar screen time tay kar dijiye aur pyar ke sath us par qaim rahiye. Achanak pabandi lagane se zid aur gussa badh sakta hai.
2. Mobile-free waqt zaroor banaiye: Khana khate waqt, namaz ke auqat mein, sone se ek ghanta pehle aur family guftagu ke dauran mobile sab ke liye band rakhiye. Bachche wahi seekhte hain jo woh dekhte hain.
3. Mobile ka behtar badal dijiye: Sirf "mobile mat dekho" kehna kaafi nahin. Cycle chalana, football, drawing, kahaniyan, board games, gardening, masjid jana aur walidain ke sath waqt guzarna us ki zindagi ka hissa banaiye.
4. Khud misaal baniye: Agar walidain har waqt mobile mein masroof rahenge to bachcha mobile chhodne ki ahmiyat nahin samjhega. Kabhi kabhi mobile ek taraf rakh kar poori tawajjuh bachche ko dijiye.
5. Mobile wapas karne par tareef kijiye: Agar bachcha muqarrar waqt par khud mobile rakh de to foran kahiye: "Mujhe tum par fakhr hai ke tum ne apna wa'da nibhaya." Is se us mein self-control paida hoga.
6. Dil ko ghar se jodiye: Roz kuch waqt aisa rakhiye jab poora ghar sirf ek doosre ke sath baithe, baatein kare, hase aur dua kare. Jab ghar khushi ka markaz ban jata hai to mobile ki kashish dheere dheere kam hone lagti hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, bachcha mobile is liye nahin chhodta ke us se cheen liya gaya hai. Woh us waqt mobile se door hota hai jab usay ghar mein muhabbat, tawajjuh aur mobile se zyada dilchasp zindagi milti hai. Hamara maqsad sirf mobile kam karna nahin, balkeh bachche ke dil ko ghar, ilm, ibadat aur achhi sohbat se jodna hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ke haath se mobile lene se pehle us ke dil ko apni muhabbat se bhar dijiye. Jis ghar mein muhabbat zyada hoti hai, wahan screens ki kashish kam ho jati hai."

Action Today Aaj ghar mein kam az kam 30 minute ka "Family Mobile-Free Time" rakhiye. Sab apne mobile ek taraf rakh dein aur mil kar koi game kheliye, kahani suniye ya sirf guftagu kijiye. Yaqeen maaniye, aaj ke yeh 30 minute aap ke bachche ko mobile se nahin, balkeh aap se jorna shuru kar denge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 11 saal ka beta jab mobile istemal karta hai to use waqt ka ehsaas hi nahin rehta. Jab main us se mobile wapas leti hun to foran gussa karta hai, oonchi aawaz mein baat karta hai, naraz ho jata hai aur kabhi kabhi cheezen bhi phenk deta hai. Kai martaba us ke gusse se bachne ke liye mujhe use aur zyada waqt dena padta hai. Main samajh nahin pa rahi ke mobile wapas lene ka sahih tareeqah kya hai, taki na woh gussa kare aur na hi yeh aadat mazeed badhe.

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke asal masla mobile nahin, balkeh achanak mobile rok dena hai. Jab bachcha game ya video mein poori tarah dooba hota hai to us ka dimagh usi duniya mein masroof hota hai. Aise mein agar foran mobile chheen liya jaye to us ke liye us lamhe se nikalna mushkil hota hai, aur woh gusse ka izhar karta hai.
Is ka matlab yeh nahin ke aap mobile wapas lena chhod dein. Balkeh bachche ko pehle se tayyar karna aur usay self-control sikhana zaroori hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek train apni poori raftaar se chal rahi ho to kya use ek hi lamhe mein roka ja sakta hai?
Nahin. Pehle raftaar kam ki jati hai, phir train aahistah aahistah rukti hai.
Bachche ko mobile se alag karne ka usool bhi yahi hai. Achanak rokne ke bajaye use pehle se tayyar kijiye.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Ae iman walon! Apne aap ko aur apne ghar walon ko Aag se bachao."
(Surah At-Tahrim: 6)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Narmi jis cheez mein hoti hai use khubsurat bana deti hai, aur jis cheez se nikal di jaye use badsurat bana deti hai."
(Sahih Muslim)

Yeh usool bachchon ki tarbiyat mein bhi utna hi aham hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Mobile dene se pehle qanoon tay kar dijiye: Mobile haath mein dene se pehle pyar se kahiye: "Beta, aaj tum 30 minute mobile istemal karoge, phir khud mujhe wapas de doge." Jab qanoon pehle se wazeh hota hai to jhagra kam hota hai.
2. Waqt khatam hone se pehle yaad dilaiye: Achanak mobile na lijiye. Pehle kahiye: "Beta, ab sirf 5 minute baqi hain." Phir 2 minute baad dobara yaad dilaiye.
3. Bachche ko khud mobile band karne dijiye: Us ke haath se jhatke se mobile na lijiye. Use mauqa dijiye ke woh khud mobile band karke aap ko de. Is se us mein zimmedari paida hogi.
4. Mobile ke baad foran koi achhi activity rakhiye: Agar mobile ke baad kuch bhi na ho to bachcha phir mobile hi mangega. Mobile ke baad walk, football, board game, kahani ya kitchen mein chhoti si madad jaisi activity rakhiye.
5. Gusse ke samne jhuk mat jaiye: Agar bachcha roye, cheekhe ya gussa kare aur aap mobile wapas de dein to woh yeh seekh lega ke gussa karne se us ki baat manwai ja sakti hai. Narmi rakhiye, lekin qanoon na badaliye.
6. Khud bhi usi qanoon par amal kijiye: Agar walidain khana khate waqt ya family ke waqt mobile band rakhenge to bachcha bhi is qanoon ko dil se qabool karega.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, tarbiyat ka maqsad sirf mobile chhudwana nahin, balkeh bachche ko apni khwahishat par qaboo paana sikhana hai. Aaj agar woh mobile ka waqt sambhalna seekh gaya to kal apni zindagi ke bahut se faislon mein bhi apne nafs par qaboo pa sakega, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ko mobile se door karne ka behtareen tareeqah yeh nahin ke mobile achanak chheen liya jaye, balkeh yeh hai ke use pehle se qanoon aur self-control sikhaya jaye."

Action Today Aaj hi ghar mein mobile istemal karne ke 3 asaan qawaneen likhiye. Unhein poore ghar ke liye barabar lagu kijiye aur mobile ka waqt khatam hone se 5 minute pehle bachche ko pyar se yaad dilaiye. Yaqeen maaniye, jab qanoon muhabbat aur istiqamat ke sath lagu hote hain to zid dheere dheere khatam hone lagti hai, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 15 saal ka beta pehle padhai mein bahut achha tha, lekin pichhle ek saal se us ki zyada dilchaspi YouTube, online games aur social media mein ho gayi hai. Agar mobile na mile to bechain ho jata hai, raat der tak jagta hai aur ghar walon ke sath baithne ke bajaye apne kamre mein rehna pasand karta hai. Main har waqt us ki nigrani bhi nahin kar sakti aur sirf daantne se bhi koi faidah nahin ho raha. Mujhe darr hai ke kahin woh ghalat dosten, ghalat videos ya ghalat raste par na chala jaye. Main aise daur mein apne bete ki hifazat kaise karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke aap ka beta sirf mobile ya YouTube ka shikar nahin hua, balkeh woh us umar mein hai jahan har no'umr bachcha apni pehchan, apni dilchaspi aur apni jagah talash karta hai. Agar usay yeh cheezen ghar, masjid, family aur achhi sohbat mein na milen to digital duniya us ki zarurat poori karne lagti hai.
Is liye sirf mobile kam kar dena kaafi nahin hoga. Asal zarurat us ki zindagi ko maqsad, muhabbat aur masroofiyat se bharna hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek kashti samandar mein bina patwaar aur bina manzil ke chhod di jaye to lehrein use jidhar chahein le jayengi.
No'umr bachcha bhi kuch aisa hi hota hai. Agar us ke paas zindagi ka maqsad na ho to social media, games aur internet us ki soch aur waqt ka rukh tay kar dete hain. Lekin jab us ke paas wazeh maqsad ho to wahi technology ilm aur taraqqi ka zariya ban sakti hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Aur us cheez ke peeche na chalo jis ka tumhein ilm nahin. Beshak kaan, aankh aur dil, in sab ke bare mein sawal hoga."
(Surah Al-Isra: 36)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Qiyamat ke din bande se us ki umr ke bare mein poocha jayega ke us ne use kis kaam mein guzara."
(Sunan at-Tirmidhi)

Yeh hamein yaad dilate hain ke hamara waqt, hamari tawajjuh aur hamari nigah Allah ki amanat hain.

Kya Karein? 1. Mobile ko dushman na banaiye, maqsad ko dost banaiye: Sirf yeh mat kahiye, "Mobile kam istemal karo." Balki us se poochhiye: "Beta, tum zindagi mein kya banna chahte ho? Is maqsad tak pahunchne ke liye aaj tum kya kar rahe ho?" Jab maqsad wazeh hota hai to fazool screen time khud kam hone lagta hai.
2. Guftagu ka rishta mazboot kijiye: Roz kuch waqt us ke sath baghair tanqeed ke baithiye. Sirf yeh na poochhiye: "Kitni der mobile dekha?" Balkeh poochhiye: "Aaj YouTube par kya naya seekha?" Jab bachcha mehsoos karega ke aap usay samajhna chahti hain to woh apni duniya aap ke samne kholna shuru karega.
3. Ghar ke digital qawaneen sab ke liye barabar hon: Khana khate waqt, namaz ke auqat mein aur sone se ek ghanta pehle mobile sab ke liye band ho. Bachcha us qanoon ko zyada asani se qabool karta hai jis par walidain bhi amal karte hain.
4. Us ki energy ko sahi rukh dijiye: Sports, gym, swimming, kitabon ka mutala'ah, kisi skill ki training, masjid ki activities ya volunteer khidmat jaisi masroofiyat us ki zindagi ka hissa banaiye. No'umr bachche ko sirf mana nahin kiya jata, us ki energy ko behtar simt di jati hai.
5. Mobile tanhai mein nahin, family ke qareeb istemal ho: Koshish kijiye ke mobile aur internet ghar ke khule hisse mein istemal ho. Band kamra fitnon ke imkaan ko badha deta hai, jabke khula mahaul hikmat ke sath hifazat karta hai.
6. Us ke imaan aur Allah se talluq ko mazboot kijiye: No'umri mein sab se mazboot security password parental control nahin, balkeh taqwa hai. Quran ki chhoti chhoti ayat, Seerah ke waqiat aur Allah ka ehsaas us ke dil mein paida kijiye. Jab dil Allah se jud jata hai to fitnon ki kashish kam hone lagti hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aap ka beta ab bachcha nahin raha aur abhi mukammal baaligh bhi nahin hua. Yeh us ki zindagi ka sab se nazuk marhala hai. Is umar mein use sirf qawaneen ki nahin, balkeh ek aise walidain ki zarurat hai jo us ki baat sunein, us ki rehnumai karein aur us par bharosa bhi karein. Aaj agar aap us ka dil jeet lengi to kal duniya ke fitne usay aasani se nahin jeet sakenge, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "No'umr bachche ko screens se zyada ek maqsad ki zarurat hoti hai. Jis naujawan ki zindagi maqsad se bhar jaye, us ka screen time khud kam hone lagta hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath kam az kam 20 minute sirf us ki zindagi ke khwabon aur maqsad par baat kijiye. Us se poochhiye: "Paanch saal baad tum apne aap ko kahan dekhna chahte ho?" Phir mil kar ek chhota sa weekly plan banaiye jisme padhai, ibadat, exercise aur screen time ka tawazun ho. Isi tarah dheere dheere us ki zindagi virtual duniya se nikal kar haqeeqi maqsad ki taraf badhegi, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 14 saal ka beta bahut zeheen hai. Jab kisi mauzu mein dilchaspi leta hai to bahut jaldi seekh leta hai, lekin school ki padhai mein us ki dilchaspi din ba din kam hoti ja rahi hai. Asatizah bhi kehte hain ke us mein salahiyat bahut hai, magar mehnat nahin karta. Imtihan qareeb aane par bhi sanjeedah nahin hota, jabke mobile, games aur apni pasand ke kaamon mein ghanton laga rehta hai. Main use baar baar samjhati hun, lekin woh kehta hai: "Mujhe padhne ka dil nahin karta." Main kya karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke har woh bachcha jo padhai se door ho raha ho, zaroori nahin ke woh sust ya na-laiq ho. Aksar aise bachche bahut zeheen hote hain, lekin unhein apni padhai ka maqsad samajh nahin aata. Jab padhai sirf number lane, daant se bachne ya imtihan pass karne ka zariya ban jaye to dheere dheere us ka shauq khatam hone lagta hai.
Zeheen bachche aksar woh kaam dil se karte hain jisme unhein challenge, ma'ni aur dilchaspi nazar aaye. Is liye hamein un ki zehni salahiyat ko sahi simt dene ki zarurat hoti hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek teerandaz ke paas behtareen teer ho, lekin us ke samne nishana hi na ho, to woh apna teer kis taraf chalaye ga?
Isi tarah zehant Allah ki ne'mat hai, lekin agar bachche ko apni manzil nazar na aaye to us ki salahiyat bikhar jati hai. Jab maqsad wazeh ho jaye to wahi bachcha mehnat bhi karta hai aur kamyabi bhi hasil karta hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Aur insaan ke liye wahi hai jis ki woh koshish karta hai."
(Surah An-Najm: 39)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Mazboot momin Allah ko kamzor momin se zyada pasand hai, agarche dono mein khair hai. Jo cheez tumhein faidah de us ki hirs rakho, Allah se madad maango aur himmat na haaro."
(Sahih Muslim)

Yeh hadees hamein sikhati hai ke kamyabi sirf zehant se nahin, balkeh lagataar koshish aur Allah par bharose se milti hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Number se zyada seekhne ki tareef kijiye: Roz yeh na poochhiye: "Aaj kitne marks aaye?" Balkeh poochhiye: "Aaj tum ne kya naya seekha?" Is se us ka tawajjuh result se zyada learning par hoga.
2. Us ke sapne ko pehchaniye: Us se pyar se baat kijiye ke woh mustaqbil mein kya banna chahta hai. Phir use samjhaiye ke aaj ki padhai us khwab tak pahunchne ka zariya hai.
3. Chhote study sessions rakhiye: Do ya teen ghante lagataar padhne ke bajaye 25–30 minute ki focused study aur phir chhota sa break rakhiye. Is tareeqe se no'umr bachche zyada behtar seekhte hain.
4. Har chhoti taraqqi ki qadr kijiye: Agar us ne pehle se behtar mehnat ki ho ya apna homework waqt par mukammal kiya ho to us ki tareef zaroor kijiye. Hausla afzai bachche ke confidence ko mazboot karti hai.
5. Mobile aur padhai mein tawazun paida kijiye: Mobile ko poori tarah band kar dena zaroori nahin, lekin us ka muqarrar screen time tay kijiye aur us par istiqamat se amal kijiye.
6. Padhai ko Allah ki ibadat se jodiye: Bachche ko batayiye ke ilm hasil karna sirf naukri ke liye nahin, balkeh Allah ki di hui salahiyat ko behtareen tareeqe se istemal karne aur logon ke kaam aane ke liye bhi hai. Jab padhai ka maqsad buland hota hai to mehnat mein bhi lutf aata hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aap ka beta sust nahin, balkeh shayad be-maqsad ho gaya hai. Use sirf padhne ka hukm dene ke bajaye us ke andar seekhne ka shauq jagaiye. Jab bachcha apni manzil dekh leta hai to us ke qadam khud-ba-khud us ki taraf chalne lagte hain. Aap ka hausla, dua aur musalsal rehnumai us ki zindagi badal sakti hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Har zeheen bachche ko sirf kitaab nahin, ek maqsad ki zarurat hoti hai. Jis din usay apni manzil nazar aa jaye, us din mehnat us ke liye bojh nahin rehti."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath 20 minute sirf us ke mustaqbil ke bare mein baith kar baat kijiye. Us se poochhiye: "Allah ne tumhein jo salahiyat di hai, tum use kis achhe kaam mein istemal karna chahte ho?" Phir us khwab tak pahunchne ke liye mil kar ek chhota sa rozana study plan banaiye. Yaqeen maaniye, jab bachcha apni padhai ko apne maqsad se jor leta hai to us ki dilchaspi dheere dheere wapas aane lagti hai, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Meri 9 saal ki beti pehle bahut sach bolti thi, lekin ab mamooli mamooli baton par jhoot bolne lagi hai. Kabhi homework na karne par bahana bana deti hai, kabhi apni ghalti kisi aur par daal deti hai aur kabhi daant se bachne ke liye sach chhupa leti hai. Main bahut pareshan hun ke agar abhi is ki islah na ki gayi to yeh aadat mazboot ho jayegi. Main use sach bolne ki aadat kaise sikhaun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke har woh bachcha jo jhoot bolta hai, bura nahin hota. Aksar bachcha jhoot is liye bolta hai kyun ke use darr hota hai ke kahin daant na pade, saza na mile, ya walidain us se naraz na ho jayein. Is liye sirf jhoot ko rokna kaafi nahin, balkeh us darr ko samajhna bhi zaroori hai jo usay jhoot bolne par majboor kar raha hai.
Jab bachcha mehsoos karta hai ke sach bolne ke baad bhi usay sirf sakht daant milegi, to woh dheere dheere sach chhupana seekh leta hai. Lekin jab use yaqeen ho ke walidain us ki baat pehle sunenge aur phir pyar se islah karenge, to us ke liye sach bolna aasaan ho jata hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar kisi doctor ko sirf bukhar kam karna ho aur woh bimari ki asal wajah na dhoonde, to mareez kuch din baad phir bemar ho jayega.
Bilkul isi tarah, jhoot asal bimari nahin hota. Aksar us ke peeche darr, sharmindagi ya ghalat tarbiyati mahaul chhupa hota hai. Jab asal wajah door hoti hai to jhoot bhi dheere dheere khatam hone lagta hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Ae iman walon! Allah se daro aur sachchon ke sath raho."
(Surah At-Tawbah: 119)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Sachchai neki ki taraf le jati hai aur neki Jannat ki taraf le jati hai... Aur jhoot burai ki taraf le jata hai aur burai Jahannam ki taraf le jati hai."
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Yeh hadees hamein batati hai ke sach bolna sirf ek achhi aadat nahin, balkeh ek aisa akhlaaq hai jo insaan ko Allah ke qareeb le jata hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Sach bolne ki tareef pehle kijiye: Agar bachcha apni ghalti khud maan le to foran daantna shuru na kijiye. Pehle kahiye: "Mujhe khushi hai ke tum ne sach bola." Us ke baad pyar se us ki ghalti samjhaiye.
2. Ghar ko sach bolne ke liye mehfooz jagah banaiye: Bachche ko yaqeen dilaaiye ke agar woh sach bolega to us ki baat suni jayegi. Ghalti ki islah hogi, lekin us ki tauheen nahin ki jayegi.
3. Sachchai ke waqiat sunaiye: Rasulullah ﷺ ka laqab "As-Sadiq Al-Ameen" kyun pada? Sahabah رضي الله عنهم ki sachchai ke waqiat bachchon ko sunaiye. Kahaniyan bachchon ke dil par gehra asar chhodti hain.
4. Khud sachchai ki misaal baniye: Agar walidain phone par ya rozmarrah ke mamlaat mein chhota jhoot bolte hain to bachcha samajhta hai ke zarurat ke waqt jhoot bolna theek hai. Bachche nasihat se kam aur misaal se zyada seekhte hain.
5. "Jhoota" ka label mat dijiye: Kabhi yeh na kahiye: "Tum to hamesha jhoot bolte ho." Is ki jagah kahiye: "Tum achhe bachche ho, aur mujhe yaqeen hai ke tum sach bol sakte ho." Yeh alfaaz us ke andar achhi pehchan paida karte hain.
6. Ghalti aur jhoot ka farq samjhaiye: Bachche ko batayiye ke ghalti har insaan se hoti hai, lekin ghalti chhupane ke liye jhoot bolna zyada nuqsan-deh hai. Allah Ta'ala sach bolne walon se muhabbat karta hai aur taubah karne walon ko bhi pasand farmata hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aap ka maqsad sirf jhoot rukwana nahin, balkeh aisi shakhsiyat banana hai jo har haal mein sach ko apnaye. Jab bachcha mehsoos karega ke mere walidain meri sachchai ki qadr karte hain, to woh dheere dheere jhoot chhod kar sach ko apni pehchan bana lega, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachcha us ghar mein sach bolna seekhta hai jahan ghalti par islah hoti hai, beizzati nahin. Sachchai ka sab se behtareen inaam walidain ka bharosa hota hai."

Action Today Aaj apni beti ke sath baith kar us se pyar se kahiye: "Agar tum kabhi ghalti bhi karogi aur mujhe sach bataogi, to main pehle tumhari sachchai ki tareef karungi, phir mil kar ghalti ko theek karenge." Yaqeen maaniye, yeh ek jumla us ke dil se jhoot ka darr nikalne ki shuruaat ban sakta hai, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 8 saal ka beta kabhi kabhi school ya rishtedaron ke ghar se kisi ka pen, khilona, rubber ya doosri chhoti cheez utha kar le aata hai. Jab main us se poochhti hun to pehle inkar karta hai, phir kehta hai: "Mujhe achhi lagi thi, is liye le aaya." Mujhe bahut fikr ho rahi hai ke kahin yeh aadat aage chal kar chori ki shakal ikhtiyar na kar le. Main us ki islah kaise karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle ghabraiye mat. Is umar mein har bachcha jo kisi ki cheez utha leta hai, zaroori nahin ke woh chori ka aadi ban raha ho. Aksar is umar ke bachche abhi "meri cheez" aur "doosre ki cheez" ka ehsaas mukammal taur par nahin samajhte. Kabhi koi cheez bahut pasand aa jati hai, kabhi woh sochte hain ke chhoti si cheez lene se koi farq nahin padega, aur kabhi woh sirf tajassus mein aisa kar baithte hain.
Is marhale par bachche ki ghalti ki islah karna zaroori hai, lekin us ki shanakht ko ghalti ke sath nahin jorna chahiye. Agar hum use baar baar "chor" kahenge to kahin aisa na ho ke woh isi label ko apni pehchan samajhne lage.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek paudha tedha ugna shuru ho jaye to mali use pyar se sahara de kar seedha karta hai. Woh paudhe ko todta nahin.
Bachche ki aadatein bhi isi paudhe ki tarah hoti hain. Agar shuru mein muhabbat aur hikmat se un ki islah kar di jaye to woh behtareen akhlaaq ke sath bade hote hain.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Beshak Allah tumhein hukm deta hai ke amanatein un ke haqdar tak pahuncha do."
(Surah An-Nisa: 58)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Jis ne hamein dhoka diya, woh hum mein se nahin."
(Sahih Muslim)

Yeh taleem hamein batati hai ke ek momin ki pehchan amanatdari aur diyanat hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Pehle wajah samajhiye: Sakht daantne se pehle pyar se poochhiye: "Beta, tum ne yeh cheez kyun li?" Jab bachcha apni baat bayan karega to aap asal wajah samajh payengi.
2. "Chor" ka label kabhi mat dijiye: Us ke amal ko ghalat kahiye, us ki shanakht ko nahin. Kahiye: "Beta, yeh kaam ghalat hai, lekin mujhe yaqeen hai ke tum amanatdar bachche ban sakte ho." Yeh alfaaz us ki soch ko behtar banayenge.
3. Cheez wapas karna sikhaiye: Bachche ko apne sath le jaiye aur pyar se woh cheez us ke asal malik ko wapas karwaiye. Agar munasib ho to us se maafi bhi mangwaiye. Is se us ke dil mein zimmedari paida hogi.
4. Amanatdari ki kahaniyan sunaiye: Rasulullah ﷺ ke "As-Sadiq Al-Ameen" hone ke waqiat aur Sahabah رضي الله عنهم ki diyanat ke qisse bachchon ko sunaiye. Bachche kahaniyon se akhlaaq jaldi seekhte hain.
5. Maangna sikhaiye, chup kar lena nahin: Agar usay koi cheez pasand aaye to use yeh jumla sikhaiye: "Kya main yeh le sakta hun?" ya "Kya aap mujhe yeh de sakte hain?" Yeh chhoti si aadat us ki poori zindagi ka akhlaaq bana sakti hai.
6. Amanatdari ki tareef kijiye: Jab bhi bachcha kisi ki cheez wapas kare ya koi giri hui cheez us ke malik tak pahunchaye to foran us ki tareef kijiye aur kahiye: "Allah amanatdar logon se muhabbat karta hai." Is se us ke dil mein achha akhlaaq mazboot hoga.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aap ka maqsad sirf woh pen ya khilona wapas karwana nahin hai. Asal maqsad us ke dil mein amanatdari, diyanat aur Allah ke samne jawabdehi ka ehsaas paida karna hai. Aaj agar yeh bunyad mazboot ho gayi to kal woh har chhoti aur badi amanat ki hifazat karne wala insaan banega, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ko us ki ghalti ka naam mat dijiye, us ke mustaqbil ki pehchan banaiye. Har bachcha amanatdar banna seekh sakta hai jab walidain us par bharosa karein aur pyar se rehnumai karein."

Action Today Aaj apne bachche ke sath baith kar ghar ki 5 cheezon ki misaal dijiye aur us se poochhiye: "In mein se kaun si hamari hai aur kaun si doosron ki amanat ho sakti hai?" Phir use pyar se samjhaiye ke ijazat ke baghair kisi ki cheez lena durust nahin. Agar us ke paas kisi aur ki koi cheez ho to aaj hi us ke sath mil kar use wapas kar dijiye. Yeh chhota sa amal us ke dil mein amanatdari ki bunyad mazboot karega, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 13 saal ka beta pehle bahut achhe alfaaz istemal karta tha, lekin kuch arse se us ki zaban kharab ho gayi hai. Gusse mein ya doston ke sath khelte hue gaaliyan deta hai. Kai martaba samjhane ke bawajood kehta hai: "Sab dost aise hi baat karte hain, yeh to sirf mazaq hai." Mujhe darr hai ke kahin yeh aadat us ki shakhsiyat ka hissa na ban jaye. Main us ki islah kaise karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle yeh samajhiye ke bachche gaaliyan lekar paida nahin hote. Woh apne aas paas ke mahaul se alfaaz seekhte hain. No'umri mein dost, school, social media, online games aur YouTube ka asar bahut tez hota hai. Isi liye agar bachcha gandi zaban istemal karne laga hai to sirf us ki zaban nahin, balkeh us ke mahaul ko bhi dekhna zaroori hai.
Aksar bachcha gaali ka asal matlab bhi nahin janta. Woh sirf is liye bolta hai kyun ke usay lagta hai ke is se woh doston mein "cool" ya mazboot nazar aayega. Agar is marhale par pyar aur hikmat se rehnumai mil jaye to yeh aadat aasani se badli ja sakti hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek kamre mein roz thoda thoda dhuan bharna shuru ho jaye to shuru mein us ka ehsaas nahin hota. Lekin kuch din baad poora kamra badbu aur dhuan se bhar jata hai.
Isi tarah roz roz bole jane wale bure alfaaz dheere dheere bachche ki zaban aur phir us ki shakhsiyat ka hissa ban jate hain. Is liye shuru hi mein is aadat ko rokna zaroori hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Logon se achhi baat kaho."
(Surah Al-Baqarah: 83)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Momin na ta'na dene wala hota hai, na la'nat karne wala, na fahash go aur na badzaban."
(Sunan at-Tirmidhi)

Yeh hadees hamein batati hai ke pakizah zaban ek momin ki khubsurat pehchan hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Pehle asal source maloom kijiye: Sukoon se jaanne ki koshish kijiye ke yeh alfaaz us ne kahan se seekhe hain. Dost, school, games, YouTube ya social media? Jab wajah maloom hogi tabhi durust islah ho sakegi.
2. Sirf "Gaali mat do" na kahiye: Usay samjhaiye ke achhe alfaaz insaan ki izzat badhate hain aur bure alfaaz us ki qadr kam kar dete hain. Bachche ko wajah samajh aayegi to badalne ka imkaan bhi zyada hoga.
3. Ghar ka qanoon sab ke liye ek jaisa ho: Ghar mein yeh usool bana dijiye: "Hamare ghar mein gusse mein bhi koi gaali nahin dega." Yeh qanoon sirf bachche ke liye nahin, walidain ke liye bhi ho.
4. Achhi zaban ki tareef kijiye: Agar bachcha ek din ya chand din gaali diye baghair guzar de to us ki tareef zaroor kijiye. Positive encouragement buri aadat ko badalne mein bahut madad karti hai.
5. Achhe alfaaz sikhaiye: Jab gussa aaye to gaali ki jagah kaun se alfaaz istemal karne hain, yeh bhi sikhaiye. Misal ke taur par: "Mujhe yeh baat pasand nahin aayi," ya "Main naraz hun." Bachche ko badal dene ke liye sirf mana karna nahin, balkeh behtar alfaaz dena bhi zaroori hai.
6. Rasulullah ﷺ ko ideal banaiye: Bachchon ko batayiye ke Nabi ﷺ ne kabhi kisi ko gaali nahin di. Aap ﷺ ki narmi, husn-e-akhlaq aur meethi guftagu ke waqiat sunaiye. Bachcha jis shakhsiyat se muhabbat karta hai, usi ki naqal karta hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, zaban sirf alfaaz nahin bolti, balkeh insaan ke dil ki tarbiyat ko zahir karti hai. Agar aaj aap apne bete ki zaban ko pakizah banana shuru kar dengi to kal us ka akhlaaq, us ke dost aur us ki poori shakhsiyat bhi behtar hoti chali jayegi. Islah ka safar sakhti se nahin, muhabbat, dua aur musalsal rehnumai se tay hota hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachcha wahi zaban bolta hai jo roz sunta hai. Agar ghar mein izzat, narmi aur achhe alfaaz honge to dheere dheere us ki zaban bhi pakizah ho jayegi."

Action Today Aaj poore ghar mein ek naya qanoon banaiye: "Aaj hum sab sirf achhe alfaaz istemal karenge." Agar kisi se ghalti ho jaye to gaali ke bajaye ek achha jumla istemal kare. Din ke aakhir mein bachche ki tareef kijiye agar us ne apni zaban ki hifazat ki ho. Yaqeen maaniye, chhote chhote rozana qadam hi bachche ke akhlaaq ko hamesha ke liye badalte hain, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 16 saal ka beta pehle bahut farmabardar tha aur padhai mein bhi dilchaspi leta tha. Lekin kuch arse se us ke dost badal gaye hain. Ab woh ghar der se aata hai, kuch baatein chhupane laga hai, namaz mein bhi susti karta hai aur jab hum samjhate hain to kehta hai: "Woh sab mere achhe dost hain, aap unhein jaante nahin." Mujhe darr hai ke kahin buri sohbat us ke deen, akhlaaq aur mustaqbil ko nuqsan na pahuncha de. Main use kaise samjhaun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Aap ki fikr bilkul durust hai. No'umri woh umar hai jahan bachcha dheere dheere walidain se kam aur apne doston se zyada mutasir hone lagta hai. Is umar mein har naujawan chahta hai ke koi use qabool kare, us ki tareef kare aur us ka dost bane. Agar achhi sohbat mil jaye to us ka imaan aur akhlaaq mazboot hote hain, aur agar buri sohbat mil jaye to dheere dheere us ki aadatein bhi badalna shuru ho jati hain.
Lekin yaad rakhiye, is marhale par sirf yeh keh dena ke "Us dost se mat milo" aksar kaafi nahin hota. Jab kisi dost se jazbati talluq ban jaye to sakht mana karna kabhi kabhi bachche ko aur zyada usi taraf dhakel deta hai. Is liye hikmat aur muhabbat ke sath us ki rehnumai karna zaroori hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek koyla jalte hue koylon ke paas rakha jaye to kuch der baad woh bhi garam ho jata hai. Aur agar ek thanda loha aag ke qareeb rahe to us ka rang bhi badal jata hai.
Insaan ka dil bhi kuch aisa hi hai. Jis sohbat mein woh roz baithta hai, dheere dheere usi ke rang mein rang jata hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Us din zalim apne haath kaatega aur kahega: Kaash! Main ne Rasool ke sath rasta ikhtiyar kiya hota. Haye meri barbadi! Kaash! Main ne falaan shakhs ko dost na banaya hota."
(Surah Al-Furqan: 27–29)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Aadmi apne dost ke deen par hota hai, is liye tum mein se har shakhs dekhe ke woh kis se dosti kar raha hai."
(Sunan Abi Dawud, Sunan at-Tirmidhi)

Aur ek aur hadees mein Nabi ﷺ ne achhe aur bure dost ki misaal itr farosh aur lohar se di. Achhi sohbat insaan ko mehkati hai aur buri sohbat us ki zindagi par bura asar chhod deti hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Beta ka dost banne ki koshish kijiye: Sirf us ke doston par tanqeed na kijiye. Pehle us ki baat suniye aur poochhiye: "Tumhein apne is dost ki kaun si baat sab se zyada pasand hai?" Jab bachcha mehsoos karega ke aap use samajhna chahti hain to woh dil ki baatein bhi batane lagega.
2. Us ke doston ko janiye: Mauqa mile to unhein ghar bulaiye, un se mulaqat kijiye aur un ke akhlaaq ko dekhiye. Kai dafa asal tasveer baat cheet se samne aa jati hai.
3. Achhi sohbat ka behtar badal dijiye: Sirf buri sohbat se rokna kaafi nahin. Use masjid ke saleh naujawanon, sports, Islamic programs, mutala'ah aur doosri mufeed activities se joriye. Har khaali jagah ko kisi achhi cheez se bharna zaroori hota hai.
4. Ghar ko us ke liye pur-sukoon jagah banaiye: Aisa mahaul banaiye ke woh apni pareshaniyan, dosti aur uljhanen aap se share kar sake. Agar bachcha ghar mein nahin suna jayega to bahar kisi aur ki baat zaroor sunega.
5. Agar koi dost waqai nuqsan-deh ho to aahistah aahistah fasla paida kijiye: Us ki routine badaliye, nayi masroofiyat dijiye aur achhe logon ke sath waqt guzarnay ke mauqe paida kijiye. Sirf pabandi lagane ke bajaye us ki zindagi ka rukh badaliye.
6. Allah se us ke liye dua karte rahiye: No'umri ki hidayat Allah Ta'ala ki bahut badi ne'mat hai. Har namaz ke baad us ke liye dua kijiye ke Allah use saleh doston ki sohbat ata farmaye aur har buri sohbat se mehfooz rakhe.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, dosti insaan ki zindagi ka rukh badal deti hai. Is liye apne bete ko sirf bure dost se door karne ki koshish na kijiye, balkeh use aise doston ke qareeb layein jo use Allah ke qareeb karein. Jis naujawan ko saleh sohbat mil jaye, us ke liye deen par qayam rehna bahut aasaan ho jata hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Naujawan ko sirf buri sohbat se bachana kaafi nahin, use achhi sohbat dena bhi utna hi zaroori hai. Insaan kabhi tanha nahin rehta, woh hamesha kisi na kisi sohbat ka rang ikhtiyar karta hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath baghair tanqeed ke 20 minute baithiye aur us se us ke doston ke bare mein baat kijiye. Un ke naam poochhiye, un ki achhi baatein poochhiye aur phir pyar se yeh sawal kijiye: "Kya tumhare yeh dost tumhein Allah ke qareeb le ja rahe hain ya Allah se door?" Is ek sawal se us ke dil mein khud apni dosti ka muhasebah paida hoga, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere do bachche hain. Ek 14 saal ka hai aur doosra 17 saal ka. Aaj kal school, college, sports aur social media har jagah mukhtalif qisam ke log milte hain. Mujhe har waqt yeh fikr rehti hai ke kahin mere bachche kisi buri sohbat ka shikar na ho jayein. Aakhir main har waqt un ke sath nahin reh sakti. Main unhein aisa kya sikhaun ke woh khud hi achhe aur bure dost mein farq kar sakein aur ghalat sohbat se bach jayein?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Yeh fikr har hoshmand maa ki fikr hai. Lekin yaad rakhiye, bachchon ko hamesha apni nigraani mein rakhna mumkin nahin hota. Asal kamyabi yeh nahin ke hum har waqt un ke sath rahen, balkeh yeh hai ke hum un ke andar aisi soch aur taqwa paida kar dein jo tanha hone par bhi unhein ghalat logon se bachaye.
Buri sohbat aksar ek din mein nahin banti. Shuru mein sirf mamooli baat cheet hoti hai, phir dosti hoti hai, phir aadatein badalti hain aur aakhir mein soch aur kirdar bhi badalne lagta hai. Isi liye bachche ko sirf "Bure dost se bachna" nahin sikhana, balkeh "Achha dost pehchanna" sikhana zyada zaroori hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek hara bhara paudha roz dhoop aur saaf pani paata rahe to ghaas phoons ko ugne ka mauqa kam milta hai.
Isi tarah jab bachche ki zindagi achhi sohbat, deen, masroofiyat aur muhabbat se bhar jati hai to buri sohbat ke liye jagah khud ba khud kam ho jati hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Aur apne aap ko un logon ke sath rakho jo subah o shaam apne Rab ko pukarte hain aur us ki raza chahte hain."
(Surah Al-Kahf: 28)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Aadmi apne dost ke deen par hota hai, is liye tum mein se har shakhs dekhe ke woh kis se dosti kar raha hai."
(Sunan Abi Dawud, Sunan at-Tirmidhi)

Aur Nabi ﷺ ne neik aur bure saathi ki misaal itr farosh aur lohar se de kar samjhaya ke sohbat insaan par laziman asar chhodti hai. (Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Kya Karein? 1. Achhe dost ki pehchan sikhaiye: Bachche se poochhiye: "Tumhare nazdeek achha dost kaun hota hai?" Phir use batayiye ke achha dost woh hai jo namaz ki yaad dilaye, jhoot se roke, walidain ki izzat kare aur Allah se qareeb kare.
2. Rozana dosti ke bare mein guftagu kijiye: Sirf yeh na poochhiye: "Aaj kya padha?" Balkeh yeh bhi poochhiye: "Aaj kis kis ke sath waqt guzara?" Is se bachcha apni social life bhi aap ke sath share karega.
3. Ghar ko doston ke liye khula rakhiye: Kabhi kabhi us ke doston ko ghar bulaiye. Un se pyar se miliye. Is tarah aap ko un ki soch aur akhlaaq ka bhi andaza hoga aur bachcha bhi mehsoos karega ke walidain us ki duniya mein dilchaspi lete hain.
4. Positive environment paida kijiye: Bachchon ko masjid, Islamic circles, sports, library, volunteering aur doosri mufeed activities se joriye. Achhi jagahen aksar achhe dost bhi deti hain.
5. Digital dosti par bhi tawajjuh dijiye: Aaj kal sirf school ke dost hi dost nahin hote. Online games, Instagram, Snapchat aur doosre platforms par bhi dosti banti hai. Bachchon ko digital safety aur online friendship ke usool bhi zaroor sikhaiye.
6. Faisla karna sikhaiye, sirf farmabardari nahin: Bachche se kabhi kabhi aise sawalat kijiye: "Agar tumhara dost tumhein namaz chhorne ko kahe to kya karoge?" ya "Agar woh jhoot bolne ya kisi ghalat kaam ki dawat de to tumhara faisla kya hoga?" Is tarah bachcha pehle se sochna aur durust faisla lena seekhega.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, bachchon ko buri sohbat se bachane ka sab se behtareen tareeqah yeh hai ke un ke dil Allah ki muhabbat se, un ke waqt mufeed kaamon se aur un ki zindagi saleh doston se bhar di jaye. Jab bachche ke paas achha mahaul hota hai to buri sohbat ki kashish bahut kam ho jati hai. Aap ki muhabbat, dua aur hikmat bhari tarbiyat un ke liye sab se mazboot hifazati deewar ban sakti hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ko sirf yeh mat sikhaiye ke kis se bachna hai, balkeh yeh bhi sikhaiye ke kis ke qareeb rehna hai. Achhi sohbat buri sohbat ka sab se mazboot ilaaj hai."

Action Today Aaj apne dono bachchon ke sath baith kar ek chhoti si list banaiye: "Achhe dost ki 5 nishaniyan aur bure dost ki 5 nishaniyan." Phir un se poochhiye ke un ke qareebi doston mein yeh khubiyan kitni maujood hain. Is guftagu se aap un ke doston ko bhi samajh payenge aur bachche bhi apni dosti ka muhasebah karna seekhenge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Meri 15 saal ki beti ek achhe school mein padhti hai, lekin aaj kal school ke mahaul, doston, social media, fashion, ghair Islami rujhanat aur baaz students ki aadaton ka us par asar nazar aane laga hai. Woh pehle ki nisbat zyada zid karti hai, kabhi kabhi ghar ki Islami baton par sawal bhi karti hai aur kehti hai: "School mein to sab aise hi karte hain." Main har waqt us ke sath nahin reh sakti. Mujhe darr hai ke kahin school ka mahaul us ki shakhsiyat aur deen par asar andaz na ho jaye. Main us ki hifazat kaise karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Har maa ki tarah aap bhi apni beti ke mustaqbil aur imaan ke liye fikrmand hain. Yeh fikr qabil-e-qadr hai. Lekin yaad rakhiye, bachche ko har fitne se door rakhna hamesha mumkin nahin hota. Asal tarbiyat yeh hai ke us ke andar itni mazbooti paida kar di jaye ke jab woh fitnon ke darmiyan bhi ho, tab bhi Allah ko yaad rakhe aur durust faisla kar sake.
Aaj ka school sirf taleem ki jagah nahin raha, balkeh mukhtalif afkar, culture aur lifestyles ka majmooa ban chuka hai. Agar bachcha har baat ko baghair soche qabool karna seekh le to woh jaldi mutasir ho jata hai. Lekin agar us ke andar Islamic identity, yaqeen aur sochne ki salahiyat paida ho jaye to woh har baat ko Qur'an aur Sunnah ki roshni mein parakhna seekh jata hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek darakht ki jarein zameen mein gehri hon to tez aandhiyan bhi usay nahin gira sakti. Lekin jis darakht ki jarein kamzor hon, halki si hawa bhi usay gira deti hai.
Isi tarah bachche ki asli hifazat school ki deewarein nahin kartin, balkeh us ke dil mein maujood imaan, akhlaaq aur Islami pehchan karti hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Ae iman walon! Apne aap ko aur apne ghar walon ko Aag se bachao."
(Surah At-Tahrim: 6)

Aur Hazrat Luqman عليه السلام ne apne bete ki tarbiyat karte hue sab se pehle us ke aqeedah, namaz, akhlaaq aur sabr ki fikr ki. (Surah Luqman: 13–19)

Yeh hamein sikhata hai ke walidain ki sab se badi zimmedari sirf achha school dhoondhna nahin, balkeh bachche ke imaan aur kirdar ko mazboot banana hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Rozana "Connection Time" zaroor rakhiye: Har roz kam az kam 15 minute sirf apni beti ke sath baithiye. Us se poochhiye: "Aaj school mein kya naya seekha?" ya "Aaj kisi baat ne tumhein hairan ya pareshan kiya?" Jab guftagu mazboot hogi to us ka bharosa bhi mazboot hoga.
2. Sawalon se ghabraiye mat: Agar woh deen ya society ke bare mein mushkil sawal kare to foran yeh na kahiye: "Zyada sawal mat karo." Balkeh us ki baat ghour se suniye aur Qur'an o Sunnah ki roshni mein pyar aur daleel ke sath jawab dijiye. Sawal karna gumrahi ki nishani nahin, rehnumai ka mauqa hota hai.
3. Ghar ko Islami mahaul banaiye: Bachcha sirf lecture se mutasir nahin hota. Jab ghar mein namaz, Qur'an, salaam, shukr, haya aur achha akhlaaq rozmarrah ki zindagi ka hissa honge to Islam us ke liye sirf subject nahin, lifestyle ban jayega.
4. Islami pehchan par fakhr paida kijiye: Use samjhaiye ke: "Har woh kaam durust nahin hota jo sab kar rahe hon." Asli kamyabi Allah ki raza mein hai, na ke logon ki taareef mein.
5. Achha mahaul bhi dijiye: School ke ilawah us ka ta'alluq masjid, saleh khawateen, Islamic workshops, mutala'ah aur positive activities se bhi joriye. Jab zindagi mein achhe asraat zyada honge to bure asraat kamzor pad jayenge.
6. Zarurat ho to school se bhi ta'awun lijiye: Agar koi wazeh akhlaaqi ya deeni masla nazar aaye to school management se hikmat ke sath baat kijiye. Aur agar mahaul waqai nuqsan-deh ho to school tabdeel karne par bhi ghour kijiye. Lekin yaad rakhiye, sirf school badalne se masla hamesha hal nahin hota. Bachche ka andar mazboot banana sab se zaroori hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aap apni beti ke gird har fitne ki deewar nahin bana sakti, lekin us ke dil mein Allah ki muhabbat, Qur'an ki hidayat aur apni Islami pehchan ka itna noor zaroor paida kar sakti hain ke woh ghalat mahaul mein reh kar bhi apni pehchan qayam rakhe. Aap ki muhabbat, dua aur musalsal tarbiyat us ki sab se badi hifazat hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ki hifazat sirf achhe school se nahin hoti, balkeh mazboot imaan, khuli guftagu aur Islami pehchan se hoti hai. Jis bachche ke andar usool mazboot hon, woh bheed mein bhi apna rasta nahin bhoolta."

Action Today Aaj apni beti ke sath 20 minute sirf baat cheet ke liye nikaliye. Us se poochhiye: "School mein aaj aisi kaun si baat hui jo tumhein achhi lagi ya jis se tum mutasir hui?" Us ki baat baghair tokay suniye aur phir mil kar Qur'an aur Sunnah ki roshni mein us par guftagu kijiye. Yaqeen maaniye, jab bachcha ghar mein apne sawalon ka itminan bakhsh jawab pa leta hai to bahar ke ghalat asraat us par bahut kam asar karte hain, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere do bachche hain. Bara beta 12 saal ka hai aur chhoti beti 9 saal ki hai. Main mehsoos karti hun ke mera beta apni behen se hasad karne laga hai. Agar hum us ki tareef karein to woh naraz ho jata hai. Agar us ke liye koi cheez laayein to foran kehta hai: "Aap ko to hamesha usi ki fikr rehti hai." Kabhi us ka khilona chhupa deta hai aur kabhi jaan boojh kar use tang karta hai. Main dono se yaksan muhabbat karti hun, lekin phir bhi us ke dil mein hasad paida ho gaya hai. Main kya karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle apne bete ko "hasad karne wala bachcha" samajhne ke bajaye us ke dil ki baat samajhne ki koshish kijiye. Aksar bachche ka hasad nafrat ki wajah se nahin, balkeh is ehsaas se paida hota hai ke "Shayad main Ammi aur Abu ke liye pehle jitna aham nahin raha."
Bachcha jab apne behen bhai ko zyada tawajjuh milti hui dekhta hai to us ke dil mein muqablay ka jazba paida ho jata hai. Phir woh tawajjuh hasil karne ke liye kabhi zid karta hai, kabhi tang karta hai aur kabhi behen bhai ko pareshan karta hai. Asal zarurat us ke rawayye ko nahin, balkeh us ke ehsaas ko samajhne ki hoti hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ghar mein do diye jal rahe hon aur ek diye se doosra diya jalaya jaye to pehle diye ki roshni kam nahin hoti.
Bilkul isi tarah, walidain ki muhabbat bhi ek diye ki tarah hai. Ek bachche se muhabbat karne ka matlab yeh nahin ke doosre ke liye muhabbat kam ho gayi hai. Lekin bachche ko yeh baat sirf kehna kaafi nahin, usay mehsoos bhi karwana padta hai.

Allah Ta'ala ne Surah Yusuf mein bayan farmaya ke jab Hazrat Yusuf عليه السلام ke bhaiyon ne yeh mehsoos kiya ke walid un se zyada Yusuf عليه السلام se muhabbat karte hain to hasad ne unhein bahut bade gunah tak pahuncha diya.

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Aapas mein hasad na karo, ek doosre se bughz na rakho, balkeh Allah ke bande ban kar bhai bhai raho."
(Sahih Muslim)

Yeh hadees hamein sikhati hai ke hasad sirf doosre ko nuqsan nahin pahunchata, balkeh sab se pehle insaan ke apne dil ka sukoon cheen leta hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Har bachche ko alag ahmiyat dijiye: Har roz kuch waqt sirf apne bete ke liye nikaliye. Jab bachcha mehsoos karega ke "Ammi sirf mere liye bhi waqt nikalti hain," to us ke dil ka ehsaas-e-mahrumi kam hoga.
2. Muqabla kabhi na kijiye: Kabhi yeh na kahiye: "Dekho, tumhari behen tum se achhi hai." Har bachcha Allah ki alag ne'mat hai aur har ek ki alag salahiyat hoti hai.
3. Har bachche ki alag khoobi ki tareef kijiye: Agar beti safai pasand hai aur beta zimmedar hai to dono ki un ki apni khoobiyon par tareef kijiye. Is se bachcha apni qeemat mehsoos karta hai.
4. Insaaf ka ehsaas paida kijiye: Sirf insaaf karna kaafi nahin, bachche ko insaaf nazar bhi aana chahiye. Tohfe, tawajjuh aur muhabbat ke izhar mein tawazun rakhne ki koshish kijiye.
5. Ek doosre ke liye dua karna sikhaiye: Rozana bachchon ko sikhaiye ke woh apne behen bhai ke liye dua karein: "Ya Allah! Mere behen bhai ko sehat, imaan aur kamyabi ata farma." Dua dilon ko jorne ka behtareen zariya hai.
6. Team banaiye, muqabla nahin: Ghar mein aisi activities rakhiye jahan dono mil kar koi kaam karein, jaise mil kar khana lagana, puzzle banana ya kisi ghar ke kaam mein madad karna. Jab bachche ek team ki tarah kaam karte hain to muqabla kam aur muhabbat zyada hoti hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, har bachcha yeh mehsoos karna chahta hai ke "Main Ammi aur Abu ke liye khaas hun." Jab aap har bachche ko us ki apni pehchan, muhabbat aur tawajjuh dengi to dheere dheere hasad ki jagah itminan aur muhabbat paida hone lagegi. Aap ka insaaf, narmi aur hikmat hi is masle ka sab se behtareen ilaaj hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachchon ke darmiyan barabari ka matlab har cheez ek jaisi dena nahin, balkeh har bachche ko yeh ehsaas dilana hai ke woh walidain ki nazar mein qeemati aur mehboob hai."

Action Today Aaj apne har bachche ke sath 15 minute alag alag guzariye. Us se us ki pasand ki baat kijiye, us ki kisi ek khoobi ki tareef kijiye aur use yeh zaroor kahiye: "Tum Allah ki taraf se mere liye bahut qeemati ne'mat ho." Yeh chand alfaaz us ke dil ki kami ko muhabbat se bharna shuru kar denge aur behen bhai ke darmiyan muhabbat ko mazboot banayenge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 17 saal ka beta pehle har baat mujh se share karta tha. School ki baatein, doston ki baatein aur apne masail sab kuch batata tha. Lekin pichhle ek do saal se woh khamosh rehne laga hai. Zyada tar waqt apne kamre mein guzarta hai, mukhtasar jawab deta hai, apni baatein hum se share nahin karta aur doston ke sath zyada khush nazar aata hai. Mujhe mehsoos hota hai ke woh hum se door hota ja raha hai. Kya yeh umar ka taqaza hai ya hamari tarbiyat mein koi kami hai? Main dobara us ke dil ke qareeb kaise aa sakti hun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle apne dil ko mutmain kijiye. No'umri mein har khamoshi baghawat nahin hoti aur har doori nafrat ki nishani nahin hoti. Yeh zindagi ka woh marhala hai jahan bachcha dheere dheere apni alag pehchan (identity) banane ki koshish karta hai. Woh chahta hai ke log us ki baat sunein, us ki rai ki qadr karein aur use sirf chhota bachcha na samjhein.
Is umar mein agar walidain sirf sawal karne wale, tanqeed karne wale ya har baat par hukm dene wale ban jayein to bachcha apni baatein doston ke sath share karna shuru kar deta hai. Lekin agar ghar mein muhabbat, aitemad aur khul kar baat karne ka mahaul ho to woh chahe kitna bhi bada ho jaye, us ka dil walidain se juda rehta hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, jab parinda bada hota hai to woh ghonsle se bahar udna zaroor seekhta hai, lekin agar us ka ghonsla mehfooz aur pur-sukoon ho to har shaam woh wahi laut kar aata hai.
Bilkul isi tarah no'umar bachchon ko bhi apni jagah aur azadi chahiye hoti hai, lekin agar ghar muhabbat, aitemad aur sukoon ki jagah ho to woh apne dil ki baatein aakhir walidain hi se karte hain.

Allah Ta'ala ne Hazrat Luqman عليه السلام ki apne bete se guftagu bayan karte hue baar baar farmaya:

"Ya Bunayya" (Ae mere pyare bete!)
(Surah Luqman: 13–19)

Ghour kijiye, Hazrat Luqman عليه السلام ne naseehat se pehle muhabbat ka rishta mazboot kiya.

Rasulullah ﷺ bhi naujawan Sahabah رضي الله عنهم se nihayat muhabbat aur hikmat ke sath guftagu farmate the. Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas رضي الله عنهما ko apne peeche sawari par bitha kar pyar se naseehat farmayi.
Is se hamein maloom hota hai ke naujawanon ke dil hukm se nahin, muhabbat se jeete jate hain.

Kya Karein? 1. Sunne wali maa baniye: Har mulaqat ko lecture mein tabdeel mat kijiye. Kabhi kabhi sirf khamoshi se us ki baat sun lena bhi bahut badi tarbiyat hoti hai.
2. Rozana "Quality Time" rakhiye: Har roz kam az kam 15 minute sirf us ke sath guzariye. Mobile ek taraf rakhiye aur us waqt koi naseehat ya hisaab kitab na ho. Sirf us ke sath baithiye.
3. Aitemad ko saza se zyada ahmiyat dijiye: Agar woh kisi ghalti ya uljhan ke sath aap ke paas aaye to foran ghussa na kijiye. Agar us ka aitemad toot gaya to agli baar woh kisi aur ke paas jayega.
4. Us ki rai ki qadr kijiye: Ghar ke kisi faisle, safar ya kisi mamle mein us se mashwarah lijiye. Jab bachcha mehsoos karta hai ke meri baat ki qeemat hai to us ka walidain se rabta mazboot hota hai.
5. Sath waqt guzariye, sirf sath mat rahiye: Kabhi us ke sath walk par jaiye, chai peejiye ya bahar khana khaiye. Aisi ghair rasmi mulaqatein dilon ke darmiyan fasle kam karti hain.
6. Us ke liye dua aur husn-e-zann rakhiye: Kabhi yeh na sochiye ke woh hamesha ke liye badal gaya hai. Allah Ta'ala se us ke liye hidayat, hikmat aur aap se mazboot ta'alluq ki dua karti rahiye. Bahut se naujawan is marhale ke baad dobara walidain ke aur qareeb ho jate hain.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, no'umri mein bachche walidain se nahin, balkeh us andaz se door hote hain jahan unhein sirf tanqeed, hukm ya muqabla mehsoos hota hai. Jab aap apne bete ke liye sirf Inspector nahin, balkeh us ki Mentor aur Trusted Guide ban jayengi to woh apni zindagi ke bade se bade faisle mein bhi sab se pehle aap hi ki taraf ruju karega. Aap ki muhabbat, dua aur aitemad us ke liye sab se mazboot sahara hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "No'umar bachchon ko sab se zyada us ghar ki zarurat hoti hai jahan unhein har baat par judge nahin kiya jata, balkeh samjha jata hai. Jab dil mehfooz mehsoos karta hai to zaban khud ba khud khul jati hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath 20 minute tanha guzariye. Us se sirf ek sawal poochhiye: "Beta, aaj kal tumhari zindagi mein sab se zyada kis baat ka pressure ya concern hai?" Phir baghair tokay aur baghair mashwarah diye us ki baat poori suniye. Yaqeen maaniye, kai baar bachchon ko foran hal nahin, balkeh ek aisa dil chahiye hota hai jo unhein tawajjuh se sun sake. Isi sunne se dobara aitemad ka safar shuru hota hai, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 15 saal ka beta bahut achha aur samajhdar hai, lekin us ki ek aadat mujhe bahut pareshan karti hai. Agar koi us se achanak koi sawal poochh le ya chand logon ke samne baat karne ko kahe to woh foran ghabra jata hai. Us ke haath paon mein paseena aa jata hai, awaaz badal jati hai aur woh bahut pareshan ho jata hai. Mujhe darr hai ke yeh aadat us ki taleem, shakhsiyat aur mustaqbil par asar andaz na ho. Main ek maa hone ke nate us ka confidence kaise barhaun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle apne bete ko kamzor mat samajhiye. Bahut se zeheen, ba-salahiyat aur kamyab log bhi bachpan aur no'umri mein logon ke samne bolte waqt ghabraya karte the. Ghabrahat aksar na-ahli ki nishani nahin hoti, balkeh is baat ki alamat hoti hai ke bachcha doosron ki rai ko bahut ahmiyat deta hai aur ghalti karne se darta hai.
Confidence kisi bachche ke andar paidaishi taur par nahin hota. Yeh dheere dheere tajurbe, hausla afzai aur chhoti chhoti kamyabiyon se banta hai. Is liye us par tanqeed karne ke bajaye us ka hausla barhana sab se zaroori hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, jab koi bachcha pehli baar tairna seekhta hai to shuru mein pani se darta hai. Lekin jab ustad us ka haath pakar kar dheere dheere practice karwata hai to wahi bachcha chand din baad itminan se tairne lagta hai.
Confidence bhi bilkul isi tarah hai. Yeh ek hi din mein nahin aata, balkeh musalsal practice aur himmat afzai se mazboot hota hai.

Jab Allah Ta'ala ne Hazrat Musa عليه السلام ko Fir'awn ke paas bhejne ka hukm diya to unhon ne dua ki:

"Rabbi ishrah li sadri, wa yassir li amri, wahlul 'uqdatan min lisani, yafqahu qawli."
"Ae mere Rab! Mera seena khol de, mera kaam aasan kar de aur meri zaban ki girah khol de taa ke log meri baat samajh saken."
(Surah Taha: 25–28)

Yeh dua hamein batati hai ke Allah ke azeem paighambar ne bhi mushkil zimmedari ke liye Allah se himmat aur aasani maangi.

Kya Karein? 1. Negative label kabhi mat dijiye: Kabhi yeh na kahiye: "Tum bahut darpok ho" ya "Tum se to kuch nahin hoga." Is ki jagah kahiye: "Mujhe yaqeen hai ke tum har din pehle se behtar ho rahe ho." Yeh alfaaz us ka confidence banayenge.
2. Chhote chhote challenges dijiye: Us se ek dam badi speech ki umeed na rakhiye. Pehle ghar walon ke samne 2 minute baat karwaiye, phir kisi rishtedar se phone par baat karwaiye, phir dheere dheere chhote groups mein bolne ki practice karwaiye.
3. Koshish ki tareef kijiye, sirf result ki nahin: Agar woh ghabrane ke bawajood bolne ki koshish kare to foran us ki tareef kijiye: "Masha Allah! Aaj tum ne himmat ki, mujhe tum par fakhr hai." Yeh jumla us ke liye bahut qeemati hoga.
4. Sirf apne kal se muqabla sikhaiye: Us se yeh na kahiye: "Dekho, falan kitna confident hai." Balkeh kahiye: "Aaj tum kal se zyada behtar the." Yeh soch healthy growth paida karti hai.
5. Dua aur tawakkul ki aadat daliye: Hazrat Musa عليه السلام ki yeh dua usay yaad karwaiye aur har test, interview, presentation ya kisi bhi aham mauqe se pehle padhne ki aadat daliye. Sath hi yeh bhi samjhaiye ke kamyabi Allah ke haath mein hai.
6. Ghar ko safe place banaiye: Agar bachcha ghalti kare ya baat karte waqt ruk jaye to us ka mazaq na uraiye. Ghar woh jagah honi chahiye jahan woh baghair darr ke practice kar sake. Jis ghar mein ghalti par hausla afzai hoti hai, us ghar ke bachche zyada confident bante hain.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, confidence kisi jadui tareeqe se nahin aata. Yeh walidain ke bharose, muhabbat, dua aur rozana ki chhoti chhoti practice se tayyar hota hai. Aaj jo bachcha mamooli sawal se ghabrata hai, wahi kal Allah ke fazl se hazaron logon ke samne pur-waqar andaz mein baat kar sakta hai. Aap ka yaqeen us ke confidence ki bunyad ban sakta hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ka confidence tanqeed se nahin, balkeh us ehsaas se banta hai ke 'Mere walidain mujh par yaqeen rakhte hain.' Jab walidain bharosa dete hain to bachcha dheere dheere apne aap par bhi bharosa karna seekh jata hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ko sirf 2 minute ke liye ghar walon ke samne kisi bhi pasandida mauzu par baat karne ka mauqa dijiye. Baat mukammal hone ke baad us ki ghaltiyon par baat na kijiye, balkeh us ki himmat aur koshish ki tareef kijiye. Phir mil kar Hazrat Musa عليه السلام ki dua padhiye. Yaqeen maaniye, roz ki yeh chhoti practice us ke confidence ko dheere dheere mazboot banayegi aur ek din woh isi ghabrahat par qabu pa lega, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 18 saal ka beta ab college mein padhta hai. Bachpan mein woh har baat mujh se share karta tha, lekin ab apne faisle khud karna chahta hai. Zyada tar waqt apne doston ke sath guzarta hai aur apne masail bhi hum se kam bayan karta hai. Mujhe mehsoos hota hai ke agar main use zyada samjhaun to woh aur door ho jata hai, aur agar kuch na kahun to darr lagta hai ke kahin ghalat raaste par na chala jaye. Main is umar mein us ka dost kaise banun taa ke woh apni baatein bhi mujh se kare aur hamari rehnumai bhi qubool kare?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
No'umri aur jawani ke darmiyan ka yeh marhala har walidain ke liye aazmaish bhi hota hai aur ek naya mauqa bhi. Is umar mein bachche ko sirf muhabbat ki zarurat nahin hoti, balkeh woh chahta hai ke us par bharosa kiya jaye, us ki baat suni jaye aur us ki shakhsiyat ka ehteram kiya jaye.
Aksar walidain samajhte hain ke agar bachcha har baat un se poochh kar nahin karta to woh door ho gaya hai. Halanke no'umar bachcha apni independent identity banana chahta hai. Woh faisle karna seekh raha hota hai. Agar is daur mein usay sirf hukm aur tanqeed mile to woh apna dil band kar leta hai. Lekin agar usay muhabbat, rehnumai aur bharosa mile to woh har aham faisle mein walidain ki taraf hi ruju karta hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, ek maahir maali jab pauday ko bada hota dekhta hai to har waqt us ki shakhon ko nahin pakarta. Woh sirf itna karta hai ke waqt par pani deta hai, zarurat par sahara deta hai aur dhoop se bachata hai. Phir pauda khud apni qudrati simt mein barhta hai.
No'umar bachche bhi isi tarah hote hain. Unhein har qadam par control nahin, balkeh waqt par rehnumai aur musalsal bharose ki zarurat hoti hai.

Allah Ta'ala ne Hazrat Luqman عليه السلام ki naseehat bayan karte hue baar baar farmaya:

"Ya Bunayya" (Ae mere pyare bete!)
(Surah Luqman: 13–19)

Dekhiye, naseehat se pehle muhabbat ka rishta mazboot kiya gaya.

Rasulullah ﷺ ne bhi Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas رضي الله عنهما, Hazrat Anas رضي الله عنه aur Hazrat Mu'az bin Jabal رضي الله عنه jaise naujawan Sahabah ko apne qareeb rakha, un se guftagu ki, zimmedariyan deen aur un par bharosa farmaya. Is se hamein maloom hota hai ke naujawanon ke dil izzat, muhabbat aur aitemad se jeete jate hain.

Kya Karein? 1. Pehle suniye, baad mein boliye: Har mulaqat ko naseehat ki majlis mat banaiye. Jab woh baat kare to foran hal dene ya tanqeed karne ke bajaye us ki baat mukammal suniye. Kai martaba bachche ko mashwarah nahin, sirf ek sunne wala dil chahiye hota hai.
2. Us par bharosa zahir kijiye: Kabhi kabhi us se kahiye: "Mujhe tumhari samajh par bharosa hai. Agar kabhi uljhan ho to main hamesha tumhare sath hun." Yeh jumla us ke dil mein aitemad paida karega.
3. Us ki duniya mein dilchaspi lijiye: Us ke doston, college, hobbies, future plans aur goals ke bare mein poochhiye. Jab walidain bachche ki duniya ko samajhne ki koshish karte hain to bachcha bhi walidain ko apni duniya ka hissa bana leta hai.
4. Ghair rasmi mulaqaton ka ehtimam kijiye: Kabhi us ke sath walk par jaiye, chai peejiye ya kahin drive par nikaliye. Aksar no'umar bachche dining table se zyada car ya walk ke dauran apne dil ki baatein batate hain.
5. Ghalti ko ta'leem ka mauqa samajhiye: Agar woh koi ghalti kar baithe to foran lambi taqreer shuru na kijiye. Pehle samajhiye ke us ne aisa kyun kiya. Jab bachcha mehfooz mehsoos karta hai to woh apni ghalti bhi khud maan leta hai.
6. Ghar ko "Safe Place" banaiye: Usay baar baar yeh ehsaas dilaaiye: "Beta, chahe tum se kitni bhi badi ghalti ho jaye, yeh ghar tumhare liye hamesha khula hai aur hum tumhari madad ke liye maujood hain." Jab bachche ko yeh yaqeen hota hai to woh mushkil waqt mein doston ke bajaye walidain ki taraf laut kar aata hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, no'umar bachchon se dosti ka matlab un ki har baat maan lena nahin hota. Asal dosti yeh hai ke bachcha yeh mehsoos kare ke "Mere walidain meri baat samajhna chahte hain, sirf mujhe badalna nahin chahte." Jab muhabbat ke sath izzat aur aitemad bhi mil jaye to walidain sirf ghar ke buzurg nahin rehte, balkeh bachche ki zindagi ke sab se qeemati Trusted Guide ban jate hain. Aur jis naujawan ko apne ghar mein aisa rehnuma mil jaye, woh zindagi ke mushkil modon par bhi walidain ki taraf ruju karta hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "No'umar bachche un walidain se apna dil kholte hain jo har baat ka faisla sunane se pehle un ki baat poori tawajjuh se sunte hain. Sunna, dosti ki pehli zaban hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath 20 minute tanha guzariye. Us se sirf yeh poochhiye: "Aaj kal tum kis cheez ke bare mein sab se zyada sochte ho?" Phir us ki baat baghair tokay, baghair tanqeed aur baghair foran mashwarah diye suniye. Guftagu ke aakhir mein sirf itna kahiye: "Beta, mujhe tum par bharosa hai. Jab bhi tumhein meri zarurat ho, main hamesha tumhare sath hun." Yaqeen maaniye, isi ek jumle se us ke dil ka band darwaza dheere dheere dobara khulna shuru ho sakta hai, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere shohar mulazmat ki wajah se kai saalon se doosre shehar ya mulk mein rehte hain. Bachchon ki padhai, tarbiyat, school, bemari, ghar ke kaam aur har chhoti badi zimmedari mere upar hai. Baaz auqat main bahut thak jati hun, jaldi ghussa aa jata hai aur phir baad mein afsos hota hai. Mujhe darr rehta hai ke kahin meri kamzori ki wajah se bachchon ki tarbiyat mutasir na ho jaye. Main is surat-e-haal mein apne bachchon ki achhi tarbiyat kaise karun?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Sab se pehle apne dil se ek bojh utaar dijiye. Akele bachchon ki tarbiyat karna aasaan kaam nahin hai. Jab ek hi shakhs par ghar, bachche, taleem, bemari, ghar ke faisle aur rozmarrah ki zimmedariyan jama ho jayein to jismani aur zehni thakan (Emotional Exhaustion) fitri baat hai. Is thakan ka matlab yeh nahin ke aap buri maa hain, balkeh iska matlab sirf itna hai ke aap bhi insaan hain.
Aksar maaein apni har kami ka ilzam khud ko deti rehti hain. Har ghalti ke baad sochti hain, "Shayad main achhi maa nahin hun." Halanke Allah Ta'ala ne kabhi walidain se kamal ka mutalibah nahin kiya, balkeh ikhlas aur koshish ka hukm diya hai. Bachchon ko ek perfect maa nahin chahiye hoti, unhein ek aisi maa chahiye jo un se muhabbat kare, un ke liye dua kare aur har din dobara uth kar un ki tarbiyat ki koshish kare.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek chiragh mein tel khatam hone lage to us ki roshni dheere dheere kam ho jati hai. Agar us mein dobara tel na dala jaye to woh bujh jata hai.
Bilkul isi tarah maa ka dil bhi hai. Agar woh sirf doosron ko deti rahe aur khud apni ruh, apni sehat aur apne Rab se ta'alluq ko mazboot na kare to us ki himmat dheere dheere kam hone lagti hai. Is liye apna khayal rakhna khudgarzi nahin, balkeh tarbiyat ka hissa hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Aur jo Allah se darta hai, Allah us ke liye nikalne ka rasta paida kar deta hai aur use wahan se rizq deta hai jahan se usay gumaan bhi nahin hota."
(Surah At-Talaq: 2–3)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Taqatwar momin Allah ko kamzor momin se zyada mahboob hai, agarche dono mein khair hai... Allah se madad maango aur himmat na haaro."
(Sahih Muslim)

Yeh hamein sikhata hai ke mushkil halat mein Allah se madad talab karna aur umeed ke sath koshish jari rakhna hi momin ka tareeqah hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Apne aap se ghair waqei umeedein mat rakhiye: Har din har kaam behtareen andaz mein hona zaroori nahin. Agar kisi din aap thak gayin ya ghalti ho gayi to khud ko maaf karna bhi seekhiye. Kal dobara behtar koshish kijiye.
2. Ghar ko rules par chalaiye, sirf reminders par nahin: Namaz ka waqt, homework, screen time aur sone ka routine pehle se tay kar dijiye. Jab nizam ban jata hai to maa ko har waqt chillana nahin padta.
3. Walid ka rabta qaim rakhiye: Agar shohar door hain to roz ya haftay mein muqarrar waqt par video call ya phone call zaroor karwaiye. Bachchon ko yeh mehsoos hona chahiye ke Abu un ki tarbiyat ka hissa hain, chahe door hi kyun na hon.
4. Bachchon ko zimmedar banaiye: Har bachche ko us ki umar ke mutabiq koi zimmedari dijiye. Koi apna bistar theek kare, koi table lagaye, koi apna school bag tayyar kare. Jab bachche ghar ke madadgar bante hain to maa ka bojh bhi halka hota hai aur un mein zimmedari bhi paida hoti hai.
5. Roz apni ruh ko taqat dijiye: Har din kuch waqt Qur'an ki tilawat, dua, zikr ya tanhai mein Allah se baat karne ke liye zaroor nikaliye. Yeh chand minute aap ke sabr aur sukoon ko dobara zinda kar denge.
6. Madad qubool karna seekhiye: Agar ghar mein koi saleh dadi, nani, khalah, phuphi ya koi aqalmand buzurg maujood hain to bachchon ka un se ta'alluq mazboot rakhiye. Tarbiyat ek team work hai. Har bojh akele uthana zaroori nahin.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, ho sakta hai aap ko apni mehnat aaj nazar na aaye, lekin bachche aap ki qurbani, aap ki muhabbat aur aap ki duaein kabhi zaya nahin karte. Allah Ta'ala har us aansu ko jante hain jo aap ne un ki tarbiyat ke liye bahaya hai aur har us koshish ko dekhte hain jo sirf un ki raza ke liye ki gayi. Is liye apne aap ko kabhi nakaam maa mat samajhiye. Aap Allah ki madad ke sath ek bahut badi ibadat ada kar rahi hain, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Mazboot maa woh nahin jo kabhi nahin thakti, balkeh woh hai jo thakne ke baad bhi Allah se madad maang kar dobara uth khari hoti hai. Bachchon ko aap ki kamal nahin, aap ki muhabbat aur istiqamat yaad rehti hai."

Action Today Aaj sirf 15 minute apne liye nikaliye. Do rakat nafl padhiye, Allah se apne bachchon ki tarbiyat ke liye dua kijiye aur phir ghar ke bachchon ke sath baith kar un mein se har ek ko ek chhoti si zimmedari dijiye. Aaj hi apne aap se yeh waada kijiye ke aap har bojh tanha uthane ki koshish nahin karengi, balkeh Allah par tawakkul karte hue ek ek din, ek ek qadam aage barhti rahengi. Allah Ta'ala aap ki thodi si koshish mein bhi badi barkat ata farmayenge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere shohar bachchon ki zaruriyat to poori karte hain, lekin un ki tarbiyat mein zyada dilchaspi nahin lete. Bachchon ki namaz, akhlaaq, padhai, mobile, doston aur rozmarrah ki aadaton ki fikr zyada tar mujhe hi karni padti hai. Jab main un se ta'awun ki darkhwast karti hun to kehte hain: "Tum dekh lo, mujhe waqt nahin milta." Kabhi kabhi woh bachchon ke samne meri baat bhi nazar andaz kar dete hain, jis se meri mehnat kamzor pad jati hai. Main chahti hun ke bachchon ki tarbiyat hum dono mil kar karein. Aisi surat mein mujhe kya hikmat-e-amali ikhtiyar karni chahiye?

Rehnumai Yeh masla bahut se gharon mein paya jata hai, lekin aksar is ka sabab beparwahi nahin hota, balkeh zimmedariyon ko mukhtalif nazariye se dekhna hota hai. Bahut se walid yeh samajhte hain ke un ka asal farz rizq kamana hai, jabke maa yeh chahti hai ke bachchon ki tarbiyat mein bhi woh us ke shana ba shana kharay hon.
Jab yeh mukhtalif soch baat cheet ke baghair chalti rehti hai to tarbiyat ek mushtarka mission banne ke bajaye miyaan biwi ke darmiyan ikhtilaf ka mawzu ban jati hai. Is surat mein sab se zyada nuqsan bachchon ko hota hai, kyun ke woh mukhtalif paighamat hasil karte hain.

Ek Misal Sochiye, ek baghban agar pauday ko pani de aur doosra us ki dekh bhal kare to pauda zyada mazboot hota hai. Lekin agar dono ek doosre ko zimmedar samajh kar peeche hat jayein to pauda dheere dheere kamzor hone lagta hai.
Isi tarah bachchon ki tarbiyat bhi ek mushtarka zimmedari hai. Maa aur baap ka kirdar ek doosre ka badal nahin, balkeh ek doosre ka takmil karta hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Ae iman walon! Apne aap ko aur apne ghar walon ko Aag se bachao."
(Surah At-Tahrim: 6)

Is ayat mein sirf maa ko nahin, balkeh ghar ke tamam zimmedar afrad ko mukhatab kiya gaya hai.

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Tum mein se har shakhs zimmedar hai aur har shakhs se us ki zimmedari ke bare mein sawal kiya jayega. Mard apne ghar walon ka zimmedar hai aur aurat apne shohar ke ghar aur bachchon ki zimmedar hai."
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Yeh hadees wazeh karti hai ke tarbiyat sirf maa ya sirf baap ka kaam nahin, balkeh dono ki mushtarka amanat hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Munasib waqt par narmi se guftagu kijiye: Shohar se bachchon ke samne shikayat karne ke bajaye tanhai mein sukoon ke sath baat kijiye. Ilzam dene ke bajaye apni zarurat bayan kijiye. Misal ke taur par yun kahiye: "Mujhe aap ki madad ki zarurat hai. Bachche aap ko dekh kar bahut kuch seekhte hain." Yeh jumla "Aap kabhi kuch nahin karte" se kahin zyada asar rakhta hai.
2. Chhoti zimmedariyon se shuruaat kijiye: Yeh umeed na rakhiye ke woh foran har cheez mein shareek ho jayenge. Un se sirf ek chhota kaam darkhwast kijiye, jaise roz 10 minute bachchon se baat karna, ek namaz masjid le jana ya haftay mein ek martaba un ke sath baithna.
3. Un ki koshish ki qadr kijiye: Agar woh thoda sa bhi waqt bachchon ko dein to us ki tareef kijiye. Har insaan us jagah zyada dilchaspi leta hai jahan us ki qadr ki jaye.
4. Bachchon ke samne ek doosre ki izzat qaim rakhiye: Agar kisi baat par ikhtilaf ho to us ka faisla tanhai mein kijiye. Bachchon ke samne kabhi yeh ehsaas paida na hone dijiye ke Ammi aur Abu ek doosre ke muqabil hain.
5. Jo aap ke ikhtiyar mein hai, usay jari rakhiye: Agar filhal shohar poora ta'awun nahin kar rahe to is wajah se apni tarbiyat ki koshish mat chhoriye. Allah Ta'ala aap ki mehnat ko dekh rahe hain aur aksar ek shakhs ki istiqamat doosre ke dil ko bhi badal deti hai.
6. Dua ko kabhi kamzor mat samajhiye: Roz Allah Ta'ala se dua kijiye ke aap ke shohar ke dil mein bachchon ki tarbiyat ki fikr paida farma dein aur aap dono ko ek doosre ke liye behtareen madadgar bana dein. Bahut se gharon ki islah woh dua karti hai jo kisi taqreer se nahin ho pati.

Yaad rakhiye, agar aaj aap ke shohar tarbiyat mein kam hissa le rahe hain to mayoosi ko apne dil mein jagah mat dijiye. Hikmat, narmi aur musalsal husn-e-akhlaq se kahi hui baat aksar us tanqeed se zyada asar karti hai jo ghusse mein ki jaye. Aap ka sabr, aap ki dua aur aap ka achha rawayya sirf bachchon hi ki nahin, balkeh poore ghar ki fiza ko tabdeel kar sakta hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip Shohar ko tarbiyat mein shareek karne ka behtareen tareeqah ilzam nahin, balkeh ehsaas dilana hai ke bachchon ko un ki zarurat hai. Izzat ke sath ki gayi darkhwast aksar tanqeed se zyada asar rakhti hai.

Action Today Aaj apne shohar se kisi pur-sukoon waqt mein sirf ek chhoti si darkhwast kijiye. Misal ke taur par kahiye: "Kya aap roz sirf 10 minute bachchon ke sath baith sakte hain? Yeh un ke liye bahut qeemati hoga." Agar woh is par amal karein to un ka shukriya ada kijiye aur un ki is koshish ki qadr kijiye. Sath hi Allah Ta'ala se dua kijiye ke aap dono ko bachchon ki tarbiyat mein ek doosre ka behtareen sahara bana de, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 10 saal ka beta bahut shararti hai. Baar baar samjhane ke bawajood kabhi kabhi woh ek hi ghalti dobara kar leta hai. Ghusse mein aa kar kabhi kabhi mujhe use maarna padta hai, lekin baad mein mujhe bahut afsos hota hai. Kuch log kehte hain, "Maar khaye baghair bachche seedhe nahin hote," jabke kuch log kehte hain ke bachchon ko kabhi haath nahin lagana chahiye. Main uljhan mein hun ke Islam is bare mein kya rehnumai deta hai? Agar maarna durust nahin to phir bachche ki islah kaise ki jaye?

Rehnumai Har maa ka maqsad apne bachche ko takleef dena nahin, balkeh us ki islah karna hota hai. Lekin jab baar baar samjhane ke bawajood bachcha wahi ghalti dohrata hai to walidain thak jate hain aur ghussa un par ghalib aa jata hai. Isi ghusse mein di hui saza aksar tarbiyat ke bajaye rishton ko nuqsan pahuncha deti hai.
Yeh samajhna bahut zaroori hai ke Islam na to be-maqsad maar peet ki taleem deta hai aur na hi bachchon ko har qeemat par khula chhod dene ki. Islam ka tareeqah rahmat, hikmat, adl aur munasib discipline ka tareeqah hai. Saza ka maqsad badla lena nahin, balkeh aadat ki islah karna hota hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar doctor mareez ko sirf dard ki dawa de aur bimari ki asal wajah ka ilaaj na kare to mareez kuch der ke liye sukoon mehsoos karega, lekin bimari baqi rahegi.
Bilkul isi tarah bachche ko maar dene se woh kuch der ke liye khamosh ho sakta hai, lekin jab tak us ki ghalti ki asal wajah nahin samjhi jayegi, us ka rawayya aksar dobara wapas aa jata hai.

Allah Ta'ala ne Rasulullah ﷺ ke bare mein farmaya:

"Allah ki rehmat ke sabab aap un ke liye narm dil hue. Agar aap sakht mizaj aur sakht dil hote to log aap ke paas se muntashir ho jate."
(Surah Aal-e-Imran: 159)

Aur Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Narmi jis cheez mein hoti hai usay khoobsurat bana deti hai, aur jis cheez se nikal di jaye usay badsoorat bana deti hai."
(Sahih Muslim)

Albatta namaz ke bare mein Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Apni aulad ko saat saal ki umar mein namaz ka hukm do aur das saal ki umar mein agar woh namaz chhor dein to is par unhein sakhti se mutawajjeh karo."
(Sunan Abi Dawud)

Ulama ne wazeh kiya hai ke yeh ghusse mein maarna nahin, balkeh ek aakhri tarbiyati marhala hai. Is ki bhi shar'i hudood hain: chehre par na ho, nuqsan pahunchaane wali na ho aur jab tamam tarbiyati tareeqe ikhtiyar kiye ja chuke hon tab hi is par ghour kiya jaye.

Kya Karein? 1. Ghusse mein kabhi faisla na kijiye: Jab ghussa aaye to foran saza dene ke bajaye pehle apni kaifiyat ko sambhaliye. Pani peejiye, wuzu kar lijiye ya kuch der ke liye khamosh ho jaiye. Tarbiyat hamesha sukoon ki halat mein zyada moassar hoti hai.
2. Ghalti ko wazeh taur par samjhaiye: Sirf yeh na kahiye: "Tum bahut bure ho." Balkeh kahiye: "Beta, tum bure nahin ho, lekin yeh kaam ghalat tha aur is ka nateeja yeh ho sakta hai." Is se bachcha apni zaat aur apni ghalti mein farq karna seekhta hai.
3. Pehle se tay shuda discipline rakhiye: Har ghalti ka jawab maar nahin hona chahiye. Kabhi screen time kam kar dijiye, kabhi pasandida activity rok dijiye ya koi chhoti zimmedari de dijiye. Jab rules pehle se maloom hon to bachcha unhein zyada sanjeedgi se leta hai.
4. Achhe rawayye ki tareef bhi zaroor kijiye: Aksar walidain sirf ghalti dekhte hain. Jab bachcha durust rawayya ikhtiyar kare to foran us ki tareef kijiye: "Masha Allah! Aaj tum ne apna ghussa bahut achhi tarah control kiya." Positive reinforcement buri aadat badalne mein bahut madad karti hai.
5. Asal wajah talash kijiye: Agar ek hi ghalti baar baar ho rahi hai to sirf bachche ko mat dekhiye. Yeh bhi sochiye ke kahin woh thaka hua, tawajjuh ka bhooka, kisi baat se pareshan ya routine ki kami ka shikar to nahin.
6. Mohabbat aur discipline ka tawazun qaim rakhiye: Na itni sakhti ke bachcha darr kar jhoot bolna shuru kar de aur na itni narmi ke usay kisi had ka ehsaas hi na rahe. Sab se behtareen tarbiyat woh hai jahan bachcha walidain se muhabbat bhi kare aur un ka ehteram bhi.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, bachche ki islah ka maqsad us ka dil todna nahin, balkeh us ka kirdar banana hai. Jab bachcha yeh mehsoos karta hai ke "Meri Ammi mujhe saza dene ke liye nahin, mujhe behtar insaan banane ke liye rehnumai kar rahi hain," to woh dheere dheere apni ghaltiyon ko khud bhi pehchanne lagta hai. Muhabbat, hikmat aur istiqamat se ki gayi tarbiyat ke asraat der tak baqi rehte hain, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip Tarbiyat ka maqsad bachche ko dard dena nahin, balkeh usay durust rasta dikhana hai. Jab saza ghusse ke bajaye hikmat ke sath di jati hai to woh kirdar banati hai, aur jab ghusse mein di jati hai to aksar rishton ko kamzor kar deti hai.

Action Today Aaj ghar mein bachchon ke sath baith kar 4 ya 5 wazeh family rules likhiye aur un ke mutabiq pehle se tay shuda natije (consequences) bhi tay kar lijiye. Phir apne aap se yeh ahd kijiye ke aaj ke baad ghusse ki halat mein kabhi saza nahin denge. Pehle apni kaifiyat ko sambhalenge, phir hikmat aur insaf ke sath bachche ki islah karenge. Isi tareeqe se discipline bhi qaim rahega aur bachche ka dil bhi aap se juda rahega, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Meri do aulad hain. Ek 9 saal ka hai aur doosra 12 saal ka. Baaz auqat woh baar baar samjhane ke bawajood ek hi ghalti dohrate hain. Aise mein mujhe samajh nahin aata ke sirf samjhaun ya saza bhi dun. Agar saza dun to kis had tak dun? Mujhe darr rehta hai ke kahin sakhti se un ki shakhsiyat mutasir na ho jaye aur agar bilkul saza na dun to woh laparwah na ho jayein. Islam is bare mein kya rehnumai deta hai?

Rehnumai Meri pyari behen!
Tarbiyat mein sab se mushkil faislon mein se ek yeh hota hai ke bachche ko kab sirf samjhaya jaye aur kab saza di jaye. Bahut se walidain ya to har ghalti par foran saza de dete hain, ya phir itni narmi ikhtiyar karte hain ke bachcha har had paar karne lagta hai. Islam hamein in dono intihon se bachata hai.
Yaad rakhiye, bachche ki tarbiyat mein muhabbat bunyad hai, taleem aur naseehat tareeqah hai, aur saza sirf aakhri zariya hai. Jab bachcha baar baar samjhane, yaad dilane aur mauqa dene ke bawajood jaan boojh kar usi ghalti ko dohraye, tab munasib aur hikmat bhari tarbiyati saza di ja sakti hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, ek maahir ustad jab kisi talib-e-ilm ko padhata hai to pehle samjhata hai, phir dobara samjhata hai, phir practice karwata hai. Agar phir bhi talib-e-ilm jaan boojh kar qawaid ki khilaf warzi kare to usay munasib tanbeeh karta hai. Woh pehle din hi saza nahin deta, kyun ke us ka maqsad saza dena nahin, balkeh sikhana hota hai.
Isi tarah walidain ka maqsad bhi bachche ko takleef dena nahin, balkeh us ke andar zimmedari aur achhi aadatein paida karna hai.

Allah Ta'ala ne Hazrat Luqman عليه السلام ki naseehat bayan karte hue pehle aqeedah, namaz, akhlaaq aur sabr ki taleem di. (Surah Luqman: 13–19)

Aur Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Apni aulad ko saat saal ki umar mein namaz ka hukm do aur das saal ki umar mein agar woh namaz chhor dein to unhein is par sakhti se mutawajjeh karo."
(Sunan Abi Dawud)

Ghour kijiye, Nabi ﷺ ne foran sakhti ka hukm nahin diya. Pehle teen saal tak taleem, yaad dahani aur tarbiyat ka marhala rakha. Is se maloom hota hai ke saza pehla qadam nahin, balkeh aakhri qadam hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Saza se pehle apne aap se teen sawal poochhiye: Har dafa saza dene se pehle sochiye:
• Kya maine isay pehle durust baat sikhayi thi?
• Kya maine pyar se ek se zyada martaba samjhaya tha?
• Kya yeh bachcha jaan boojh kar yeh ghalti dohra raha hai?
Agar in sawalon ka jawab "haan" ho, tab tarbiyati natije (discipline) ki taraf jaiye.
2. Ghusse mein kabhi saza mat dijiye: Jab ghussa ho to faisla mat kijiye. Pehle apna ghussa kam kijiye, phir sukoon ke sath bachche se baat kijiye. Ghusse mein di gayi saza aksar insaf se door hoti hai.
3. Saza pehle se tay shuda rule ke mutabiq ho: Bachcha pehle se janta ho ke agar woh yeh ghalti karega to us ka nateeja kya hoga. Misal ke taur par screen time kam ho jayega, pasandida activity kuch waqt ke liye ruk jayegi ya koi chhoti zimmedari di jayegi. Jab rules wazeh hote hain to bachcha saza ko zulm nahin samajhta.
4. Saza mukhtasar aur munasib ho: Saza itni ho ke bachcha apni ghalti samajh le, lekin us ki izzat-e-nafs mutasir na ho. Kabhi doosron ke samne zaleel na kijiye aur na hi lambi muddat tak us se naraz rahiye.
5. Saza ke baad rishta mazboot kijiye: Jab saza mukammal ho jaye to bachche ko apne paas bithaiye aur us se kahiye: "Beta, mujhe tum se muhabbat hai, lekin is ghalat kaam ko main qabool nahin kar sakta." Yeh jumla bachche ko yeh samjhata hai ke us ki zaat mehboob hai, sirf us ka rawayya durust karna maqsood hai.
6. Har achhe rawayye ko notice kijiye: Sirf ghaltiyon par tawajjuh mat dijiye. Jab bachcha durust rawayya ikhtiyar kare to foran us ki tareef kijiye. Aksar tareef woh asar karti hai jo saza bhi nahin kar pati.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, kamyab walidain woh nahin jo sab se zyada saza dete hain. Kamyab walidain woh hain jo bachche ko yeh sikha dete hain ke har amal ka nateeja hota hai aur har ghalti ke baad durust hone ka mauqa bhi hota hai. Jab bachcha insaf, muhabbat aur hikmat ke sath discipline dekhta hai to us ke andar khud apni islah ki salahiyat paida hone lagti hai. Yahi asal tarbiyat hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Behtareen saza woh hai jo bachche ko us ki ghalti ka ehsaas dila de, lekin usay yeh mehsoos na hone de ke us ke walidain ki muhabbat kam ho gayi hai. Discipline rishton ko mazboot kare, kamzor nahin."

Action Today Aaj apne ghar ke bachchon ke sath baith kar 5 wazeh family rules aur un ke mutabiq 5 munasib consequences likhiye. Har rule sab ko samjhaiye aur yeh bhi batayiye ke agar koi ghalti hogi to pehle samjhaya jayega, phir yaad dilaya jayega aur zarurat par hi tarbiyati saza di jayegi. Is tarah bachche saza ko ghusse ka natija nahin, balkeh insaf ka hissa samjhenge. Aur aap bhi har faisla sukoon, hikmat aur adl ke sath kar sakenge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere chaar bachche hain. Baaz log kehte hain ke bachchon ke sath bahut narmi nuqsan deti hai, jabke kuch kehte hain ke sakhti bilkul nahin karni chahiye. Main aksar isi uljhan mein rehti hun ke kab muhabbat se samjhaun aur kab sakhti ikhtiyar karun. Mujhe darr hai ke kahin zyada narmi se bachche bigar na jayein aur zyada sakhti se woh mujh se door na ho jayein. Islam is bare mein kya rehnumai deta hai?

Rehnumai Har maa chahti hai ke us ke bachche us se muhabbat bhi karein aur us ki baat bhi maanein. Lekin aksar hum muhabbat aur discipline ko ek doosre ke muqabil samajh lete hain. Ya to har baat maan kar use muhabbat ka naam de dete hain, ya har baat par sakhti ko tarbiyat samajh lete hain. Halanke asal tarbiyat in dono ke darmiyan hikmat bhara tawazun qaim karne ka naam hai.
Bachche ki fitrat yeh hai ke usay do cheezon ki zarurat hoti hai. Ek unconditional love, jahan woh mehfooz aur maqbool mehsoos kare. Doosri clear boundaries, jahan usay maloom ho ke ghar ke usool kya hain aur un ki khilaf warzi ka nateeja kya hoga. Jab in dono mein se koi ek cheez kam ho jaye to tarbiyat mutasir hone lagti hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, dariya ka pani jab apne kinaron ke andar behta hai to kheton ko haryali deta hai aur zindagi bakhshta hai. Lekin agar kinare hi na hon to wahi pani selaab ban kar tabahi macha deta hai.
Muhabbat pani ki tarah hai aur usool us ke kinare hain. Muhabbat ke baghair usool sakht lagte hain aur usool ke baghair muhabbat bachche ko hadd se aage le jati hai. Dono ka sath hona zaroori hai.

Allah Ta'ala ne Rasulullah ﷺ ke bare mein farmaya:

"Allah ki rehmat ke sabab aap un ke liye narm dil hue. Agar aap sakht mizaj aur sakht dil hote to log aap ke paas se muntashir ho jate."
(Surah Aal-e-Imran: 159)

Lekin isi Nabi ﷺ ne namaz ki tarbiyat ke bare mein farmaya:

"Apni aulad ko saat saal ki umar mein namaz ka hukm do aur das saal ki umar mein agar woh namaz chhor dein to unhein is par sakhti se mutawajjeh karo."
(Sunan Abi Dawud)

Is se hamein yeh sabaq milta hai ke Islam sirf narmi ya sirf sakhti ki taleem nahin deta, balkeh har maqam par hikmat aur munasib rawayya ikhtiyar karna sikhata hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Muhabbat ko hamesha shart se azad rakhiye: Bachche ko baar baar yeh ehsaas dilaaiye: "Hum tum se har haal mein muhabbat karte hain, lekin har rawayya durust nahin hota." Is se bachcha samajhta hai ke us ki qeemat us ki ghaltiyon se kam nahin hoti.
2. Ghar ke usool wazeh aur mustaqil rakhiye: Namaz, adab, screen time, sone ka waqt aur jhoot jaisi bunyadi baaton ke bare mein pehle se rules bana dijiye. Rules har roz tabdeel na hon aur sab bachchon par insaf ke sath lagu hon.
3. Har ghalti par foran sakhti na kijiye: Pehla qadam taleem ho, doosra yaad dahani, teesra naseehat aur agar bachcha jaan boojh kar usi ghalti ko dohraye to phir munasib tarbiyati consequence dijiye. Sakhti hamesha aakhri marhala honi chahiye.
4. Achhe rawayye ko bhi notice kijiye: Jab bachcha sach bole, namaz waqt par padhe, apni zimmedari poori kare ya apna ghussa control kare to foran us ki tareef kijiye. Bachche us rawayye ko zyada dohrate hain jis ki qadr ki jati hai.
5. Ghusse mein discipline mat kijiye: Agar aap ghusse mein hain to kuch der ke liye faisla mu'akhkhar kar dijiye. Sukoon ke sath diya gaya discipline bachche ko islah deta hai, jabke ghusse mein di gayi sakhti aksar us ke dil mein khauf ya zid paida karti hai.
6. Roz muhabbat ka waqt zaroor nikaliye: Har din kuch waqt sirf bachchon ke sath guftagu, muskurahat, khel ya quality time ke liye rakhiye. Jab bachche ka emotional account muhabbat se bhara hota hai to woh usool aur discipline ko bhi zyada asani se qubool karta hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, behtareen walidain woh nahin jo har baat manwa lete hain aur na hi woh jo har baat man lete hain. Behtareen walidain woh hain jo apne bachchon ke dil bhi jeet lete hain aur un ke zameer bhi bana dete hain. Jab bachcha yeh mehsoos karta hai ke "Meri Ammi mujh se muhabbat bhi karti hain aur meri bhalai ke liye had bhi muqarrar karti hain," to us ke andar khud discipline paida hone lagta hai. Isi tawazun se mazboot shakhsiyat, achha akhlaaq aur Allah ka darr paida hota hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Muhabbat bachche ko aap ke qareeb lati hai aur usool usay seedha rasta dikhate hain. Jab dono sath hon to bachcha sirf farmanbardar nahin, balkeh ba-shaoor aur ba-akhlaq insaan banta hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bachchon ko gale laga kar un se kahiye: "Hum tum se bahut muhabbat karte hain." Is ke baad ghar ke 5 bunyadi usool dobara un ke sath baith kar padh lijiye aur har rule ki wajah bhi samjhaiye. Aaj yeh ahd kijiye ke aap har ghalti par pehle muhabbat aur rehnumai ka rasta ikhtiyar karenge aur sirf zarurat par hikmat ke sath discipline istemal karenge. Isi tawazun se bachche aap ki muhabbat bhi mehsoos karenge aur aap ki baat ka ehteram bhi seekhenge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere teen bachche hain jin ki umrein 8, 12 aur 16 saal hain. Main mehsoos karti hun ke woh ghar ke kisi kaam ki zimmedari nahin lete. Apna kamra bhi khud saaf nahin karte, cheezen idhar udhar chhor dete hain, har kaam ke liye mujhe awaz dete hain aur yeh samajhte hain ke un ka sirf padhna hi kaafi hai. Mujhe darr hai ke agar abhi se un mein zimmedari ka ehsas paida na kiya gaya to bade ho kar bhi doosron par inhisar karenge. Main un mein zimmedari kaise paida karun?

Rehnumai Har maa apne bachchon ko takleef se bachana chahti hai. Isi muhabbat mein aksar hum un ke kapre bhi utha dete hain, bistar bhi theek kar dete hain, school bag bhi tayyar kar dete hain aur chhote chhote kaam bhi khud kar lete hain. Humein lagta hai ke hum un se muhabbat kar rahe hain, lekin dheere dheere bachcha yeh seekhne lagta hai ke "Mujhe mehnat karne ki zarurat nahin, koi na koi mera kaam kar hi dega."
Zimmedari kisi lecture se paida nahin hoti, balkeh rozmarrah ki chhoti chhoti zimmedariyan nibhane se paida hoti hai. Bachpan mein jo bachcha apna kaam khud karna seekh leta hai, wahi jawani mein apni padhai, apne ghar, apne waadon aur apne deen ki zimmedari bhi samajhne lagta hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar ek bachche ko cycle chalana sikhate waqt har waqt peeche se pakad kar rakha jaye to woh kabhi balance banana nahin seekhega. Lekin jab dheere dheere sahara kam kiya jata hai to woh khud apna tawazun banana seekh leta hai.
Bilkul isi tarah zimmedari bhi hai. Agar walidain hamesha bachchon ke peeche un ke kaam karte rahenge to bachche kabhi apni zimmedari ka bojh uthana nahin seekhenge. Thoda bharosa aur thoda mauqa hi unhein mazboot banata hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Aur insan ke liye wahi hai jis ki woh koshish karta hai."
(Surah An-Najm: 39)

Aur Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Tum mein se har shakhs zimmedar hai aur har shakhs se us ki zimmedari ke bare mein sawal kiya jayega."
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Is hadees se maloom hota hai ke Islam bachpan hi se insaan ko zimmedari ka ehsas dena chahta hai. Sahabah رضي الله عنهم ne kam umri mein ilm, ibadat, khidmat aur qiyadat ki zimmedariyan is liye uthayin kyun ke unhein bachpan hi se zimmedar banana sikhaya gaya tha.

Kya Karein? 1. Har bachche ko us ki umar ke mutabiq ek mustaqil zimmedari dijiye: 8 saal ka bachcha apna bistar theek kare, jootay jagah par rakhe ya pani ki bottle bhare. 12 saal ka bachcha dastarkhwan lagane ya kitaben munazzam karne mein madad kare. 16 saal ka bachcha ghar ke kisi kaam ki nigraani kare, chhote behan bhai ki madad kare ya zaruri khareedari mein hissa le.
2. Bachche ka kaam us ki jagah khud mat kijiye: Agar woh apni zimmedari bhool jaye to foran khud kar dene ke bajaye use yaad dilaaiye: "Beta, yeh tumhari zimmedari hai. Mujhe yaqeen hai tum khud kar sakte ho." Is jumle se us mein confidence bhi paida hoga aur zimmedari bhi.
3. Sirf natije ki nahin, koshish ki bhi tareef kijiye: Jab bachcha apni zimmedari poori kare to sirf "Theek hai" keh kar baat khatam na kijiye. Us se kahiye: "Masha Allah! Tum ne apni zimmedari bahut achhe انداز se nibhayi." Jis rawayye ki qadr ki jati hai, bachcha usay dobara dohrata hai.
4. Ghar ke faislon mein bhi unhein shareek kijiye: Kabhi poochhiye ke mehmanon ke liye kya intizam hona chahiye, safai ka schedule kaise banega ya family outing kab rakhi jaye. Jab bachchon ki raye ki qadr hoti hai to un mein zimmedari ka ehsas bhi barhta hai.
5. Khidmat ko izzat ka kaam banaiye: Unhein batayiye ke ghar ka kaam sirf Ammi ki zimmedari nahin. Bartan uthana, safai karna, pani lana aur doosron ki madad karna ek momin ka husn-e-akhlaq hai, na ke koi chhota kaam.
6. Sabr aur istiqamat ikhtiyar kijiye: Shuru mein bachche bhoolenge, susti bhi karenge aur shayad shikayat bhi karein. Lekin har baar gussa karne ke bajaye unhein un ki zimmedari yaad dilaaiye. Tarbiyat ek din mein nahin, musalsal routine se banti hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, aaj agar aap bachchon ka har kaam khud kar dengi to unhein aaram zaroor milega, lekin kal zindagi ki zimmedariyan un ke liye bojh ban jayengi. Aaj agar aap un par bharosa karengi, unhein chhoti chhoti zimmedariyan dengi aur un ki rehnumai karti rahengi to wahi bachche kal apne ghar, apne walidain, apni qaum aur apne deen ki zimmedariyan bhi fakhr ke sath uthayenge, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Zimmedari samjhai nahin jati, di jati hai. Jis bachche par bharosa kiya jata hai, woh dheere dheere khud bhi apne upar bharosa karna seekh leta hai."

Action Today Aaj hi apne har bachche ke liye us ki umar ke mutabiq ek mustaqil zimmedari tay kijiye aur use likh kar ghar mein kisi numayan jagah laga dijiye. Jab woh apni zimmedari poori kare to us ki dil se tareef kijiye, aur agar bhool jaye to us ka kaam khud karne ke bajaye pyar se yaad dilaaiye. Aaj se apna maqsad sirf madad karna nahin, balkeh zimmedar Muslim shakhsiyat tayyar karna banaiye, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere chaar bachche hain jin ki umrein 6 se 16 saal ke darmiyan hain. Main chahti hun ke woh sirf padh likh kar kamyab na hon, balkeh sache, amanatdar aur sabr karne wale insaan bhi banen. Lekin aaj ka mahaul aisa hai ke baaz bachche jhoot ko chalaki, waada khilafi ko mamool aur jaldi ghussa hone ko taqat samajhne lagte hain. Main apne bachchon mein yeh aala akhlaaq kaise paida karun taa ke yeh un ki mustaqil shakhsiyat ka hissa ban jayein?

Rehnumai Har walidain apne bachche ko kamyab dekhna chahte hain. Hum un ke school, marks aur career ki fikr bahut karte hain. Lekin asal sawal yeh hai ke agar bachcha bahut padh likh jaye, magar us par log bharosa hi na kar sakein, to kya woh waqai kamyab hoga?
Bachche ka kirdar ek din mein nahin banta. Woh har roz ghar ke mahaul, walidain ke rawayye aur rozana ki chhoti chhoti aadaton se tashkeel pata hai. Agar ghar mein sach bolne ko qeemat di jaye, amanat ka ehtiram kiya jaye aur sabr ki tareef ki jaye to dheere dheere yahi akhlaaq bachche ki fitrat ban jate hain.

Ek Misal Sochiye, jab imarat banai jati hai to sab se zyada tawajjuh us ki bunyad par di jati hai. Guzarne wale log bunyad ko nahin dekhte, lekin poori imarat usi par khari hoti hai. Agar bunyad kamzor ho to khoobsurat imarat bhi zyada der qaim nahin reh sakti.
Bilkul isi tarah sachchai, amanatdari aur sabr bachche ki shakhsiyat ki bunyad hain. Degree, daulat aur shohrat baad mein aati hain. Agar bunyad mazboot ho to zindagi ke har marhale mein insaan qaim rehta hai.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Ae iman walon! Allah se daro aur sachon ke sath raho."
(Surah At-Tawbah: 119)

Aur farmaya:

"Beshak Allah tumhein hukm deta hai ke amanatein un ke haqdaroon tak pohnchao."
(Surah An-Nisa: 58)

Aur Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Beshak Allah sabr karne walon ke sath hai."
(Surah Al-Baqarah: 153)

Rasulullah ﷺ ko nubuwwat se pehle hi "As-Sadiq Al-Ameen" kaha jata tha. Ghour kijiye, Allah Ta'ala ne apne aakhri Nabi ﷺ ko sirf ilm aur ibadat hi nahin, balkeh buland akhlaaq ki wajah se bhi duniya ke liye misaal banaya.

Kya Karein? 1. Ghar mein akhlaaq ko rozana ki guftagu ka hissa banaiye: Har roz sirf 5 minute ke liye "Aaj ka ek achha akhlaaq" par baat kijiye. Kabhi sachchai, kabhi sabr aur kabhi amanatdari ke bare mein chhoti si guftagu bachchon ke zehan mein in ki ahmiyat paida karegi.
2. Sach bolne ki himmat ki tareef kijiye: Agar bachcha apni ghalti maan le aur sach bol de to pehle us ki sachchai ki tareef kijiye, phir us ki ghalti ki islah kijiye. Agar har sach ka natija sirf daant hoga to bachcha dheere dheere jhoot ko mehfooz samajhne lagega.
3. Amanat ki practice karwaiye: Kabhi usay kuch paise, koi kitab ya ghar ka koi chhota kaam amanat ke taur par dijiye aur kahiye: "Mujhe tum par bharosa hai." Jab bachcha mehsoos karta hai ke us par aitemad kiya ja raha hai to woh us aitemad ki hifazat karna seekhta hai.
4. Sabr ki training dijiye: Har khwahish foran poori mat kijiye. Kabhi kisi cheez ke liye intezar karwaiye, kabhi apni baari ka intezar sikhaiye aur kabhi mushkil kaam mukammal karne ke baad inaam dijiye. Isi tarah delayed gratification ki aadat paida hoti hai.
5. Ambiya aur Sahabah ke waqiat sunaiye: Rasulullah ﷺ ki sachchai, Hazrat Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه ki sidq, Hazrat Usman رضي الله عنه ki amanatdari aur Sahabah ke sabr ke waqiat bachchon ko baar baar sunaiye. Kahaniyan akhlaaq ko dil mein utaarne ka behtareen zariya hoti hain.
6. Khud woh baniye jo bachchon ko banana chahte hain: Agar walidain waada poora karte hain, sach bolte hain, amanat ki hifazat karte hain aur mushkil mein sabr dikhate hain to bachche in baaton ko dekhe baghair nahin reh sakte. Bachche ka sab se pehla role model us ke walidain hote hain.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, jab aap apne bachche se yeh poochhna shuru kar deti hain ke "Aaj tum ne kaunsa sach bola?", "Aaj tum ne kis amanat ki hifazat ki?" aur "Aaj tum ne kis baat par sabr kiya?" to aap dheere dheere us ki tawajjuh marks se zyada kirdar ki taraf mod deti hain. Isi tarah ghar ka mahaul akhlaaq ki tarbiyat ka markaz ban jata hai. Aur jis ghar mein akhlaaq ki qadr ki jati hai, wahan se sirf kamyab nahin, balkeh ba-kirdar insaan nikalte hain, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche us cheez ko apni zindagi ka hissa banate hain jis ki tareef ghar mein hoti hai. Agar ghar mein sachchai, amanatdari aur sabr ki qadr hogi to dheere dheere yahi un ki pehchan ban jayegi."

Action Today Aaj raat khana khane ke baad har bachche se sirf teen sawal poochhiye: "Aaj tum ne kaunsa sach bola?" "Aaj tum ne kis amanat ki hifazat ki?" aur "Aaj tum ne kis baat par sabr kiya?" Har achhe jawab par us ki dil se tareef kijiye. Aaj se faisla kijiye ke aap apne ghar mein sirf academic success nahin, balkeh achhe akhlaaq ko bhi rozana celebrate karenge. Isi tarah aap ke bachche Allah ke nazdeek bhi maqbool aur logon ke nazdeek bhi mohtaram bante jayenge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mere do bachche hain. Ek 10 saal ka hai aur doosra 14 saal ka. Main ne mehsoos kiya hai ke woh baaz auqat badon se baat karte hue munasib lehja ikhtiyar nahin karte, chhoton par hukm chalate hain aur gharelu mulazim, driver ya ghareeb logon se bhi achhe andaz mein pesh nahin aate. Main chahti hun ke mere bachche har insaan ki izzat karna seekhein, chahe woh ameer ho ya ghareeb, bada ho ya chhota. Main un mein doosron ke ehteram ki aadat kaise paida karun?

Rehnumai Ehteram insaan ki sab se khoobsurat sifaton mein se ek hai. Yeh sirf "Assalamu Alaikum" keh dene ya adab se baat karne ka naam nahin, balkeh har insaan ki qadr karne ka naam hai. Bachcha jab doosron ki izzat karna seekh leta hai to us ke andar tawazu, shukr guzari aur husn-e-akhlaq bhi paida hone lagta hai.
Aksar walidain bachchon ko baar baar kehte hain, "Badon ki izzat karo." Lekin bachcha sirf yeh nahin dekhta ke usay kya kaha ja raha hai, balkeh yeh bhi dekhta hai ke Ammi aur Abu ghar mein kis lehje mein baat karte hain, dadi se kaise milte hain, teacher ka zikr kaise karte hain aur ghar mein kaam karne walon ke sath kaisa rawayya ikhtiyar karte hain. Bachcha naseehat se pehle manzar dekhta hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar itr ki sheeshi ko khol diya jaye to us ki khushboo aas paas ki fiza mein phail jati hai. Itr kisi ko bulata nahin, lekin us ki khushboo khud logon tak pohnch jati hai.
Bilkul isi tarah walidain ka akhlaaq bhi hai. Agar ghar ka mahaul ehteram, narmi aur husn-e-muasharat se mehak raha ho to bachche bhi bina zyada lecture ke wahi akhlaaq apna lete hain.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Aur logon se bhali baat kaho."
(Surah Al-Baqarah: 83)

Aur farmate hain:

"Aur apne walidain ke samne inkisari ke sath ajzi ka bazu jhuka do."
(Surah Al-Isra: 24)

Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Woh hum mein se nahin jo hamare chhoton par rahm na kare aur hamare badon ki izzat na kare."
(Sunan At-Tirmidhi)

Rasulullah ﷺ ki zindagi hamein yeh bhi sikhati hai ke ehteram sirf buzurgon ke liye nahin tha. Aap ﷺ bachchon par salam karte, khadimon ke sath narmi se pesh aate, ghareebon ko izzat dete aur har insaan ke sath husn-e-akhlaq ka muamla farmate the.

Kya Karein? 1. Sab se pehle apna lehja durust kijiye: Bachchon se bhi usi ehteram ke sath baat kijiye jis ehteram ki aap un se umeed rakhte hain. Jab walidain bachchon ki izzat karte hain to bachche doosron ki izzat karna seekhte hain.
2. Rozmarrah ke adab ki practice karwaiye: Unhein salam karna, ijazat le kar kamre mein dakhil hona, "JazakAllahu Khairan", "Shukriya", "Maaf kijiye" aur "Please" jaise alfaaz istemal karne ki aadat daliye. Yeh chhoti aadatein bade akhlaaq ki bunyad banti hain.
3. Har insaan ki qadr karna sikhaiye: Gharelu mulazim, driver, security guard, safai karne wale ya dukan dar se izzat aur muskurahat ke sath baat kijiye. Bachchon ko batayiye ke insaan ki qeemat us ke libas, paison ya ohde se nahin, balkeh us ke insaan hone se hoti hai.
4. Achhe rawayye ki foran tareef kijiye: Agar bachcha kisi buzurg ka ehteram kare, kisi chhote par shafqat kare ya kisi zaruratmand ki madad kare to us ki foran tareef kijiye. Positive reinforcement se akhlaaq mazboot hote hain.
5. Khidmat ke mauqe paida kijiye: Kabhi bachchon ko apne sath kisi mareez ki iyadat, rishtedaron ki mulaqat ya kisi ghareeb ki madad ke liye le jaiye. Jab bachche khidmat ko amal mein dekhte hain to ehteram un ki fitrat banne lagta hai.
6. Ghar ka mahaul ghairat nahin, shafqat ka banaiye: Ghar mein kisi ki gheebat, mazaq urana ya tauheen karne se bachiye. Agar walidain doosron ki izzat karenge to bachche bhi dheere dheere isi zaban aur isi rawayye ko apna lenge.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, ba-adab bachcha sirf woh nahin jo buzurgon ko salam karta hai. Asal ba-adab bachcha woh hai jo har insaan ke sath Allah ki makhlooq samajh kar izzat, narmi aur insaf se pesh aaye. Jab ghar ka mahaul ehteram se bhar jata hai to bachchon ki zaban bhi badalti hai, un ka lehja bhi aur un ka dil bhi. Isi tarah woh aise insaan bante hain jin par log bharosa bhi karte hain aur jin se muhabbat bhi karte hain, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Bachche ehteram sun kar kam aur dekh kar zyada seekhte hain. Aap ka lehja, aap ka rawayya aur aap ka husn-e-akhlaq un ki sab se badi tarbiyat hai."

Action Today Aaj apne bachchon ke sath mil kar yeh ahd kijiye ke ghar ka har fard har shakhs se narmi aur ehteram ke sath baat karega. Aaj jaan boojh kar kisi buzurg, padosi, gharelu mulazim ya zaruratmand se muskurahat aur izzat ke sath muamla kijiye aur baad mein bachchon se poochhiye: "Aaj hum ne kis shakhs ki izzat aur khidmat ki?" Is tarah ehteram sirf ek naseehat nahin, balkeh rozana ki zindagi ka hissa ban jayega, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 8 saal ka beta Hifz-e-Qur'an ki class mein jata hai aur sath hi online school ki taleem bhi hasil kar raha hai. Kuch arsay se woh kehne laga hai: "Main dono nahin kar sakta. Ya to school padhunga ya Hifz karunga." Main aur us ke walid us par zyada Hifz ka dabao nahin daalte. Hum sirf itna kehte hain ke jitna asani se ho sake utna kar lo. Is ke bawajood woh Hifz ko bojh mehsoos karne laga hai. Hamein darr hai ke kahin us ke dil se Qur'an ki muhabbat hi khatam na ho jaye. Aisi surat mein hamein kya karna chahiye?

Rehnumai Sab se pehle yeh baat apne dil mein bitha lijiye ke agar koi bachcha Hifz se thakan ya bojh mehsoos kar raha hai to iska yeh matlab hargiz nahin ke us ke dil mein Qur'an ki muhabbat nahin rahi. Aksar masla Qur'an nahin hota, balkeh bachche ki umar, us ki zehni salahiyat, musalsal masroofiyat aur aram ki kami hoti hai.
8 saal ka bachcha abhi jismani, zehni aur jazbati nashonuma ke aham marhalay mein hota hai. Agar us ke din mein online school, homework, Hifz, revision aur doosri zimmedariyan jama ho jayein to us ka dimagh thak jata hai. Thaka hua dimagh kabhi kabhi us kaam ko bhi bojh samajhne lagta hai jise dil se pasand karta ho.

Ek Misal Sochiye, agar koi musafir lamba safar kar raha ho aur usay baghair ruke musalsal chalne par majboor kiya jaye to woh manzil se nafrat nahin karta, balkeh safar ki thakan usay rukne par majboor kar deti hai. Lekin agar raste mein munasib aram milta rahe to woh khushi ke sath apni manzil tak pohnch jata hai.
Bilkul isi tarah Hifz ka safar bhi hai. Bachche ko manzil se muhabbat sikhani hai, safar se bezari nahin.

Allah Ta'ala farmate hain:

"Allah kisi jaan ko us ki taqat se zyada mukallaf nahin banata."
(Surah Al-Baqarah: 286)

Aur Rasulullah ﷺ ne farmaya:

"Beshak yeh deen asaan hai. Jo shakhs deen mein apne upar sakhti karega, deen us par ghalib aa jayega."
(Sahih al-Bukhari)

Nabi ﷺ ki tarbiyat ka usool yahi tha ke har shakhs ki umar, quwwat aur halat ko madde nazar rakha jaye.

Kya Karein? 1. Pehle us ke dil ko samajhiye: Bachche ke sath tanhai mein pyar se baithiye aur us se poochhiye: "Beta, tumhein sab se zyada mushkil kis cheez mein lagti hai?" Us ki baat beech mein mat katiye. Ho sakta hai woh Hifz nahin, balkeh thakan, teacher ka andaz ya waqt ki tangi bayan kar raha ho.
2. Hifz ki raftaar ke bajaye muhabbat ko tarjeeh dijiye: Agar waqai schedule zyada bhari hai to kuch arsay ke liye Hifz ke ustad se mashwarah karke sabaq ki miqdar kam kar dijiye. Yaad rakhiye, dheemi raftaar ke sath mohabbat baqi rehna, tez raftaar ke sath bezari paida hone se kahin behtar hai.
3. Khel aur aram ko routine ka hissa banaiye: 8 saal ke bachche ke liye khelna koi fazool mashghala nahin, balkeh us ki fitri zarurat hai. Har roz kuch waqt khuli hawa, physical activity aur azad khel ke liye zaroor rakhiye. Is se us ki zehni tazgi wapas aayegi.
4. Natije ke bajaye koshish ki qadr kijiye: Us se yeh mat kahiye: "Aaj kitna sabaq yaad hua?" Balkeh kahiye: "Mujhe tumhari mehnat dekh kar khushi hoti hai. Allah tumhari har koshish ko dekh raha hai." Is se bachcha performance ke dabao ke bajaye Allah ki raza ke liye mehnat karna seekhega.
5. Qur'an ke sath jazbati ta'alluq mazboot kijiye: Kabhi us ke sath Qur'an ki tilawat suniye, kisi Surah ka asaan tarjuma batayiye, Jannat mein Hafiz-e-Qur'an ke fazail sunaiye aur usay yeh mehsoos karwaiye ke Qur'an sirf yaad karne ki kitab nahin, balkeh Allah ka pyara kalam hai.
6. Kabhi muqabla mat kijiye: Yeh na kahiye: "Falan bachcha to roz itna sabaq yaad karta hai." Har bachche ki salahiyat, raftaar aur mizaj mukhtalif hota hai. Muqabla aksar himmat todta hai, jabke bharosa himmat banata hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, Hifz ka asal maqsad sirf ayat yaad karwana nahin, balkeh Qur'an ko bachche ke dil ki muhabbat banana hai. Agar aaj us ki raftaar kuch kam ho jaye lekin us ka dil Qur'an se juda rahe to yeh Allah ke nazdeek zyada qeemati hai banisbat is ke ke woh jaldi Hafiz ban jaye magar Qur'an us ke liye bojh ban jaye. Aap ki hikmat, aap ka sabr aur aap ki muhabbat hi is safar ko us ke liye zindagi ka sab se khoobsurat safar bana sakti hai, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Hifz ki kamyabi sirf is baat mein nahin ke bachcha kitni ayatein yaad karta hai, balkeh is baat mein hai ke us ke dil mein Qur'an ki muhabbat kitni gehri hoti ja rahi hai. Muhabbat bach gayi to Hifz bhi In sha Allah mukammal ho jayega."

Action Today Aaj apne bachche ke sath 20 minute sirf us ki baat sunne ke liye baithiye. Us se Hifz ka sabaq mat lijiye aur na hi us ki performance par baat kijiye. Sirf us ke ehsasat samajhiye. Phir us ke sath Qur'an ki koi pasandida Surah pyar se suniye aur us se kahiye: "Beta, hamein tum se zyada Qur'an se tumhari muhabbat ki fikr hai. Hum tumhare sath hain." Aaj se apna maqsad sirf Hafiz banana nahin, balkeh aisa Hafiz banana rakhiye jo zindagi bhar Qur'an se muhabbat kare, us par amal kare aur us ki roshni mein jiye, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera 9 saal ka beta chauthi jamaat mein padhta hai. Woh bahut jaldi ghussa ho jata hai, har waqt shararat karta rehta hai aur parhai mein bilkul dilchaspi nahin leta. Jab main use padhne ke liye bithati hun to bahane banata hai ya idhar udhar ki baaton mein lag jata hai. Main us ki is aadat se bahut pareshan hun. Bara-e-karam rehnumai farmaiye ke main us ki tarbiyat kaise karun?

Rehnumai Sab se pehle apne bete ke bare mein mayoos hone ki zarurat nahin. 9 saal ki umar bachpan se samajhdari ki taraf safar ka aham marhala hoti hai. Is umar mein baaz bachche fitri tor par zyada energetic, curious aur jazbati hote hain. Agar un ki is energy ko sahi simt na mile to woh ghusse, shararat aur parhai se dilchaspi na lene ki surat mein samne aati hai.
Aksar walidain sirf bachche ka rawayya dekhte hain, lekin us rawayye ke peeche ki wajah nahin dekhte. Kabhi bachcha zehni thakan ka shikar hota hai, kabhi usay har waqt tanqeed milti hai, kabhi usay apni kamyabi ka ehsaas hi nahin hota aur kabhi us ki fitri energy ko nikalne ka mauqa nahin milta. Jab bachcha baar baar nakami ya daant mehsoos karta hai to dheere dheere us ka confidence kam hone lagta hai aur woh parhai se bachne ki koshish karta hai.

Ek Misal Sochiye, darya ka tez pani agar be-maqsad behne lage to zameen kaat deta hai. Lekin agar usi pani ko nahar ke zariye sahi rukh de diya jaye to wahi pani kheton ko hara bhara kar deta hai.
Bachche ki energy bhi isi pani ki tarah hoti hai. Masla energy nahin, balkeh us ki direction hoti hai. Jab usay sahi rasta milta hai to wahi shararti bachcha bohot creative, purjosh aur kamyab insaan ban sakta hai.

Rasulullah ﷺ ne bachchon ke sath hamesha muhabbat, narmi aur hikmat ka muamla farmaya. Aap ﷺ ne un ki fitrat ko samjha, un ki izzat ki aur unhein pyar ke zariye tarbiyat di.

Allah Ta'ala bhi farmate hain:

"Allah sabr karne walon ke sath hai."
(Surah Al-Baqarah: 153)

Walidain ka sabr aksar bachche ki shakhsiyat ko sanwarne ka pehla zariya banta hai.

Kya Karein? 1. Roz us ke liye quality time nikaliye: Har roz kam az kam 20 minute sirf us ke liye rakhiye. Is waqt na homework ki baat ho aur na shikayat ki. Sirf us ke sath kheliye, baatein kijiye aur us ki duniya ko samajhne ki koshish kijiye. Jab bachcha jazbati tor par walidain se judta hai to us ka rawayya bhi behtar hone lagta hai.
2. Parhai ko chhote hisson mein taqseem kijiye: Ek ghante ki jagah 20 se 25 minute ke study sessions rakhiye. Har session ke baad 5 minute ka break dijiye. Chhote goals bachche ko kamyabi ka ehsaas dilate hain aur us ki tawajjuh barqarar rakhte hain.
3. Ghusse ke waqt us ke dimagh ko sukoon dijiye: Jab bachcha ghussa kare to foran lecture ya saza mat dijiye. Pehle usay pani pilaiye, thoda waqt dijiye aur jab woh pur-sukoon ho jaye tab pyar se us se baat kijiye. Ghusse ke dauran dimagh seekhne ke liye tayyar nahin hota.
4. Screen time aur physical activity mein tawazun rakhiye: Zyada mobile, videos aur games bachche ki tawajjuh aur sabr ko kam kar dete hain. Rozana screen time ko mehdood rakhiye aur us ki jagah outdoor games, cycling ya kisi physical activity ka routine banaiye.
5. Roz us ki kisi ek achhi baat ki tareef zaroor kijiye: Sirf ghaltiyan pakarne ke bajaye us ki mehnat, madad karne ki aadat ya kisi chhoti kamyabi ki bhi tareef kijiye. Positive feedback bachche ke andar behtari ki khwahish paida karta hai.
6. Ibadat ko sukoon ka zariya banaiye: Usay pyar se namaz ki taraf bulaiye, roz chand ayat Qur'an ki sath mil kar padhiye aur us ke liye kasrat se dua kijiye. Sath hi usay yeh ehsaas dilaiye ke Allah us se muhabbat karta hai aur har mehnat ko dekh raha hai. Jab bachcha Allah se jazbati ta'alluq mehsoos karta hai to us ke akhlaaq aur rawayye mein bhi tabdeeli aati hai.

Meri pyari behen! Yaad rakhiye, har shararti bachcha badtameez ya nakara nahin hota. Bohat se bachche sirf is intezar mein hote hain ke koi un ki energy ko samjhe, un ki baat sune aur un par bharosa kare. Aaj agar aap us ke ghusse ke peeche chhupe ehsas ko samajh lengi aur us ki energy ko sahi simt de dengi to wahi bachcha kal ek pur-aitemad, ba-akhlaq aur kamyab Musalman ban sakta hai. Tarbiyat ka safar waqt leta hai, lekin muhabbat aur istiqamat kabhi zaya nahin jati, In sha Allah.

🌼 Aaj Ki Parenting Tip "Har shararti bachche ko zyada daant ki nahin, balkeh zyada rehnumai ki zarurat hoti hai. Jab bachche ka dil jeet liya jaye to us ki tawajjuh aur rawayya dono behtar hone lagte hain."

Action Today Aaj apne bete ke sath kam az kam 20 minute us ki pasand ka koi game kheliye ya khul kar guftagu kijiye. Aaj usay daantne ke bajaye us ki ek achhi baat ki dil se tareef kijiye aur us ke sath mil kar kal ke liye sirf ek chhota sa study goal tay kijiye. Aaj se apna maqsad sirf usay padhana nahin, balkeh us ke dil tak pohnchna banaiye. Isi se us ki parhai aur us ka akhlaaq dono behtar honge, In sha Allah.

Ek Maa Ka Sawal
Mera beta 25 saal ka engineer hai. Alhamdulillah woh achhe akhlaq ka malik hai aur taqreeban tamam namazen masjid mein ada karta hai. Filhal us ne job chhod di hai aur apna business shuru karne ki koshish kar raha hai. Us ka ek hi masla hai ke woh sari raat laptop par kaam karta rehta hai. Fajr ki namaz padhne ke baad sota hai aur dopehar 2 baje tak sota rehta hai. Main use baar baar samjhati hoon ke raat ko jaldi soya karo aur din mein kaam kiya karo, lekin woh meri baat nahi maanta. Ab us ki yehi routine ban gayi hai. Main ek maa hone ki haisiyat se bahut pareshan hoon. Bara-e-karam rehnumai farmaiye ke main use kis hikmat ke saath samjhaun?

Rehnumai & Jawab Alhamdulillah, sab se pehle Allah Ta'ala ka shukr ada kijiye ke aap ke bete mein bahut si achhi sifaat maujood hain. Woh namazon ka ehtimam karta hai, masjid jata hai, achhe akhlaq rakhta hai aur halal rozgar ke liye mehnat kar raha hai.
Ek maa ko apni aulaad ki khoobiyon par bhi nazar rakhni chahiye, sirf kamzoriyon par nahi. Jahan tak raat bhar jaagne ka ta'alluq hai, to ise sirf nafarmani na samjhein, balkeh ye ek galat sleep cycle bhi ho sakti hai.

Pehli Naseehat Yaad rakhiye, 25 saal ki umr mein beta bachcha nahi rehta, balkeh ek baaligh aur zimmedar insaan hota hai. Is umr mein maa ka kirdar hukm dene se zyada ek khairkhwah mushir ka hota hai. Agar aap roz yehi kahengi: "Beta, jaldi so jao," to mumkin hai ke woh is baat ka aadi ho jaye aur us par iska asar kam ho jaye.

Dusri Naseehat Us se us waqt baat kijiye jab woh sukoon mein ho, na ke us waqt jab woh laptop par kaam kar raha ho. Pyar se us se kahiye: "Beta! Main tumhein rokna nahi chahti. Mujhe sirf tumhari sehat, ibadat aur mustaqbil ki fikr hai." Jab bachcha mehsoos karta hai ke maa us par hukm nahi chala rahi balkeh us ki khairkhwah hai, to woh baat ko zyada tawajjuh se sunta hai.

Teesri Naseehat Us se pyar se poochiye: "Beta! Kya waqai tumhara kaam raat hi mein behtar hota hai, ya ye sirf ek aadat ban gayi hai?" Ye sawal use apni routine ke baare mein khud sochne ka mauqa dega.

Chauthi Naseehat Use ek hi din mein raat 10 baje sone ka na kahiye, balkeh aahista aahista routine badalne ka mashwarah dijiye. Misal ke taur par:
• Aaj 2 baje ki bajaye 1:30 baje.
• Kuch din baad 1 baje.
• Phir 12:30 baje.
Yaad rakhiye, tadreeji tabdeeli zyada kamyab hoti hai.

Paanchwin Naseehat Agar woh business shuru karna chahta hai to pyar se samjhaiye: "Beta! Kamyab businessman sirf raat bhar laptop ke saamne baith kar nahi banta. Din mein logon se milna, market ko samajhna aur waqt ki barkat hasil karna bhi kamyabi ka aham hissa hai."

Sab Se Aham Naseehat Us ke liye khoob dua kijiye, khaas taur par tahajjud ke waqt aur sajdon mein. Yaad rakhiye, kai martaba jo tabdeeli naseehat se nahi aati, woh maa ki dua se aa jati hai.

Yaad Rakhiye Har aadat ko foran badalne ki koshish na kijiye. Pehle us ka dil jeetiye... Phir us ki soch badaliye... Aur phir us ki aadat badalne mein us ki madad kijiye.

🌼 Sunehri Usool "Baaligh aulaad ko hukm se zyada muhabbat, tanqeed se zyada aitimad, aur musalsal daant se zyada maa ki dua ki zarurat hoti hai."